Veera Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Shouldn´t it be otherwise? Is it relief? Shame? defense? Im on my 2nd nc. 1st i blew by answering his text. Now i have 6 days to go. Im wondering why he feels somehow hostile towards me. Now he has blocked me from his fb. We are still friends, but i can´t see what he likes yms. i used to see that. And everytime he sees me (by accident) he does something drastic.
Knoxpwns Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 It's very possible he acts hostile toward you because he feels bad. HE broke up with YOU. HE is the bad guy here. By acting hostile toward you, it builds a facade for him, that tells other people around him that you are the bad guy, and he is just the poor little guy who escaped from a crappy relationship. Don't feel bad, although I don't know the details of your breakup, bad stuff doesn't even need to be there. You can be perfect, but they don't treat you bad because of what you did or are doing, they treat you bad and act like you are the bad guy to make themselves feel better about what they did to you. Making you the enemy makes them hurting you ok. 1
Author Veera Posted August 8, 2013 Author Posted August 8, 2013 It's very possible he acts hostile toward you because he feels bad. HE broke up with YOU. HE is the bad guy here. By acting hostile toward you, it builds a facade for him, that tells other people around him that you are the bad guy, and he is just the poor little guy who escaped from a crappy relationship. Don't feel bad, although I don't know the details of your breakup, bad stuff doesn't even need to be there. You can be perfect, but they don't treat you bad because of what you did or are doing, they treat you bad and act like you are the bad guy to make themselves feel better about what they did to you. Making you the enemy makes them hurting you ok. well that makes sense in this case. He broke up with me very suddenly. after 7 years and i have cancer. Now he dates his workmate, who is 8 years younger than he is (GIGS). and very childish... i said something very mean during our break up, but so did he. He had enormous defenses... i had to do everything considering our breakup, even pack his stuff and clean the house.. i believe that he is now dealing with the break up, and i am beginning to heal. But who knows.
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