When is separation and divorce a good thing

[Changeofhabbit]

I would love to read peoples experiences where ending their marriage was the best thing for either you, your kids, your spouse or all of the listed.

[amaysngrace]

Two words...Domestic Violence.

 

I got us all away from that because children would rather be from a broken home than live in one.

 

I may not be perfect but their situation now is much much better than the other situation. I had a great fear of the roles my children were exposed to. I worried about what they were learning.

 

So I took the steps necessary to teach them "hey this is wrong".

 

I broke the cycle.

[zoobadger]

It's only been a few months but, if anything, my kids seem happier. My STBX and I didn't fight, but that's mainly because we'd pretty much ceased to have any relationship at all. I have an apartment less than a mile away so the kids seem to enjoy spending time at both places.

[Changeofhabbit]

without the experience to back up my opinion I too think kids are better off in two or at least one peaceful safe home then one messed up one.

[Gatz123]

Over all, I will say I am much happier now then when I was in the process, and definitely much happier then when I was married.

[M30USA]

I hate that I had to get divorced. I truly hate it. And parts of me still to this day wish it were another way, but then I realize there was no other choice. I was in a situation that was eating me alive and, had I stayed, I wouldn't be half the father I am now. My kids also, I believe, would never come to respect me or look up to me had I stayed married. I truly believe that. So even though I only have them less than half the time, I suppose it's the quality not quantity.

[road]

Two words...Domestic Violence.

 

 

 

Any abuse and infidelity, you are young, married short term, no kids, no financial entanglements. Those are the general criteria when one is better off divorcing.