goodguy000 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 So my now ex girlfriend got a job in another state and we decided that we would stay together long distance. Over time she became distant, and she said that she wanted a to go on break. I was really sweet to this girl and did things for her I have never done before.. TBH I loved her. I didn't care that her skin wasn't perfect, she had acne. And I put up with a lot of her **** because I thought there was something more at the end of the tunnel, I thought we had a future. She recently contacted me saying that she missed me and wanted me to visit. So I did, not expecting anything and found out the only reason she missed me was because she felt bad about ****ing someone else, so many times she lost count. I was hurt, because i still cared for her. It was awkward as hell because she said she still wants to be friends. Lets put it this way the relationships over and I know that. I hate her right now! I would never take her back, ever! What I want to ask should I send her one last email? Not to get her back, but just to vent how I feel so I can move on. I have written this email and just don't know if I should send it? it does mention that I did love her, how i feel wronged, and that i wish her all the best but i dont think i will ever forgive her. Should I send this email? or just never speak to her again?
lizzy31291 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Your ex sounds like a horrible person! Why would you even waste any of your time trying to communicate with her. I say move on and find someone better! 1
Chi townD Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 OUCH! Yeah, I wouldn't even take the time to event entertain communicating with someone like that. Look, I'm sure you put her on blast when you fund out why she wanted you out there. And when you went out there, I hope you wrapped IT up. I have a feeling that, that information came to light AFTER you have been with her. So, if I were you, I would see a doctor and just get a clear bill of health. Look, she knows she did you wrong. You won't have to write her. I speculate she may contact you. If that happens, IGNORE IT!!!!! By the way? How did you find out and how did she react?
Knoxpwns Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 (edited) Don't send it. There is no reason to. She doesn't care about you, she doesn't want to be friends (in fact any kindness she is showing you is actually her trying to make herself feel better for what she did to you, not because she is genuinely kind. It's a defense mechanism.) and in the grand reality, NOTHING she can possibly say will make you happy. Not a single word, other than complete silence, will help you feel better. What could she say, shes sorry? Does that really fix it? You don't want her back, (and you totally shouldn't) so a second chance wouldn't even matter. She can tell you that the event broke her and she has never felt so guilty or sad in her life, and even that would make you feel bad. She hurt you, but you still care about her deep down. It's a part of investing the whole of yourself into someone else. When it comes down to it, silence from both parties is the best option, no matter what. You and I are in a similar boat, brother. Nothing you can say will effect her in any way. If she cared for you and respected you, she wouldnt have cheated on you literally COUNTLESS TIMES. Vent to us, not to her. experiencing situations similar to yours is why many of us came here, and listening/helping/guiding people in situations similar yours is why we stay. You deserve way better than her, anyone would. Just let the dead horse lie, bro. don't keep beating it. Save that email though for yourself. When you feel like you miss her, read it. It will serve as a reminder why you shouldn't miss her. Buck up, man. Live for yourself, and get excited you will get to feel the butterflies again, hopefuly with a girl a thousand times better. Edited August 8, 2013 by Knoxpwns 1
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