goodcigar Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 So I was dating this girl for about 6 months until we broke up, relationship wasn't stellar but it did have its moments and it was on the upward swing when I broke up with her. I admit it was absolutely my fault as I had wanted my senior year of high school to be able to do whatever (and whoever) I wanted. This breakup was fairly long and drawn out as we didn't have "no contact" and continued to speak to each other. We were in a quasi-relationship for around 6 months where we got back with each other. Now, 3 months later we break up again, our relationship had gone to **** and we were both drifting apart from each other. She was sending me pictures of flirty texts between her and this guy, I assume to make me jealous, but after an initial burst of jealousy I just felt pissed at her. We breakup fairly amicably, it was mutually agreed (this was around 5 days ago) and delete each other off everything. So now post breakup, I've been doing fine for the past few days and I have been sort of seeing another girl (sort of because we live far away and can only see each other every so often and we both don't want a LDR). Now last night, we both were at a club on the same table (mutual friends). At first I refused to go to the table but after I met another girl I thought it would be okay to bring her back to the table (admittedly half of the reason is to make my ex-girlfriend jealous). I kept glancing at her general direction to see her reactions but as the night progressed I liked the new girl more and more and I stop paying attention right as I see my ex leaving with another guy. At the time it didn't really hit me, but now it does. If what I have heard is true, she has hooked up with at least two guys since our breakup. I realize it is incredibly hypocritical of me to be judgmental of her for doing that as I did the same, but i'm not being judgmental about it, just hurt. The weird part is, I was more or less fine, somewhat sad at times and missing her a bit, but more or less emotionally stable. Physically speaking, both the girls were more attractive than her and their personalities are far more compatible with mine but I still catch myself thinking about her. General comments would be appreciated but I would like to ask two specific questions, 1. Is it possible that other girls would just make missing her worse? Why? 2. I'm going off to college in a different country than her in less than a month, I'm assuming this would be good, but is it? Will these feelings subside by then? TL;DR: Broke up with my on and off girlfriend of a year and a bit, relationship wasn't anything special but still find myself missing her. Other girls are in the picture and are more desirable than her but I still find myself wanting her. Specific questions are above.
Oldcatskinner Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 (edited) I had an Oldsmobile car that I really enjoyed. After a few years of driving it, I got a newer car with more features. I sold the Oldsmobile to a guy I knew, and he and I were both happy. A few years later he was telling me about screwing his girlfriend who later became his wife in the backseat of my car, and I got a sick feeling in my stomach. I remembered growing up and riding around in that car, and fixing it up and taking care of it, and those good memories were clouded by the thought of some guy porking his wife in MY car. Except it wasn't my car. It was his car. I signed the title over to him. And the good memories I had with that car were still good memories. And it was my choice to get rid of the car. It was your choice to end things with the girl. You had another newer prettier girl(s). You didn't get upset until you heard or discovered that someone else had tagged your girl. Except it wasn't your girl. She USED to be your girl. Just like me and my former car, you don't like hearing when someone has fun in something that belonged to you. That's just the way it is. 1. Being with girls will only make you miss your ex if you are not over your ex. 2. Leaving the country as a basis to get over your ex won't change anything. There is a chance that you could find a spectacular woman in a new country. There is a chance that drug running pirates will kill you and stuff cocaine up your butthole and use you as a drug mule. These feelings won't subside until you take responsibility for your actions, process your thoughts, control your actions stemming from your thoughts, and make peace with the situation for YOURSELF. Edited August 8, 2013 by Oldcatskinner 1
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