GravyF Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 We've only been together for a couple of months and everything was going great, we had great dates and always had alot of fun and intimate moments together. However over the past 3 days i noticed she wasn't texting me like she usually did and when she did it was only like 3 word replies so i had a slight feeling something was up. Which brings us to yesterday, we decided to hang out and everything was great. We were have a blast and taking pictures, then we decide to sit down on a bench and just relax and hug. I leaned in for a kiss and she rejected me which was different because we usually kiss and make out alot. So i asked her what was up. She was silent for the longest time as i prompted her asking what the deal was (at this point i had a bad feeling she was gonna break up obviously) and after more prompting she told me she doesn't feel butterflies when she kisses me. I don't give her a "spark" like her ex boyfriend does. She then told me how she dreams about her exboyfriend and how she should be dreaming about me but can't. She says she just doesn't find me attractive anymore which was weird because im a pretty good looking guy. I told her we might be able to work through this and i needed to know if she wanted to end it or not. I said kiss me if you want to give this another shot or let go of my shoulders to let me know its over. And she grabbed me and kissed me. We talked for a while and things seemed normal almost, I talked to her about the spark thing which was bugging me but we then proceeded to my house. We ended up making out for like an hour and she said she was being childish before, she said we can work it out. Final paragraph of the story - which brings us to this morning when i wake up to a text which said in essentials. "I know i said we could be together for a while but i feel like i led you on. I just wanna be friends, your a great guy and i need to be alone for a while." Now sorry for the wall of text but this all came out of complete nowhere. No hints or anything it just came BAM. The problem is I really really like her still and don't know if i should talk to her or just break contact. I feel like we could still continue it but I don't know if she is just on a mood swing, (she's bi polar) or on her period. Or if this is 100% legit like she has been thinking about it. Should I talk to her and basically say if in a few months you are more emotionally stable then maybe we can get back together? I know the internet usually says "Just break contact and leave!" but who knows, any advice?
StraylightRun24 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Gravy, I feel for you. I really do. Way back in December my ex of only a few months broke up with me pretty much the exact same way. Lack of "spark" and butterflies and while doing it compared me to the ex she was only ever truly ever in love with. Hurt like hell and left me with a lot of questions unanswered even though we talked a couple days later. My advice, and I would take it with a grain of salt , is to at least not contact her for a few days. I pretty much guarantee she'll reach out to you in a couple of days asking how you are and if she doesn't at least you have a few days to get your head a little in order and won't be a complete emotional mess when/if you decided to contact her. So my advice giver her a few days of NC and if she doesn't reach out to you (and I believe she will) you can speak to her from a less emotional state and have a clearer head and possibly get some answers. Keep your head up my friend....it's going to get bumpy!
CC12 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Should I talk to her and basically say if in a few months you are more emotionally stable then maybe we can get back together? If you do talk to her, definitely don't use the words "emotionally stable" or hint at her being too dumb/crazy/emotional to make decisions for herself. She tried breaking up with you once and you managed to talk her out of it that time. But within hours, she broke up with you again. I don't think you should try to talk her out of it a second time. You only dated for a couple of months - you shouldn't have to fight so hard to make it work. Try to respect her decision, consider it over, and move on.
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