Coping with first breakup, but I still may have a chance with my ex.

[shvrk]

In a previous thread I spoke about how I broke up with my boyfriend, and wanting him back with me, but since then I've been with my friends, and they've only kept me happy for so long. Yesterday he told me that he just needed time to think about us. This was a little after I started missing him and wanted to try giving him another chance. I respected it and when on with my day.

 

Later that night, after being with a couple of guy friends that I haven't spoken to in a while, (totally platonic relationships, my ex steered me away from) I felt totally fine. I was happy and posted on instagram a text picture that said "The real ones." My ex liked it, then in the morning I check my phone and see that he's called me twenty-two times, and texted me three, asking me who I was with. I returned the calls (Was that right to do?) and asked him why he called me so much, and what he wanted to talk about.

 

He was just calling because he wondered who I was with. I feel as if he is upset that I don't need to tell him what I'm doing 24/7 and it was bothering him. I then told him that I was sleeping when he was calling, and that my phone was on silent the entire night. Both of those are the truth. I then asked him if he wanted to talk, and he said "I need time." and I told him that I know that he does, and I asked him nicely to just not contact me until he's ready to talk, because I want him to actually think about us, and I need to think about us more as well.

 

I felt fine all morning until I started to realize that I don't have him in my life right now, and coping is very hard. I know for a fact that I love him, and I broke up with him because I didn't like the way he was treating me. So right now I'm stuck. I want him back but I am not totally sure if I do. I'm feeling a whole lot a pain and confusion. Just like the title says. It's my first break up, from my first real relationship. We've been together for 9 months and we are 18 years old.

Edited August 7, 2013 by shvrk

[Simon Phoenix]

Do you honestly think he's going to change in two days? I mean, you broke up with him for a reason. What would be the point of going back at this point?

[shvrk]

Do you honestly think he's going to change in two days? I mean, you broke up with him for a reason. What would be the point of going back at this point?

 

You're right. I understand. I just am having a hard time grasping all of it. I feel like I still have him, but when I realize I don't I'm miserable.

[Simon Phoenix]

You're right. I understand. I just am having a hard time grasping all of it. I feel like I still have him, but when I realize I don't I'm miserable.

 

But you didn't want him, you let go. And you had your reasons. I know breakups are tough, but you have to remember the reason you broke up in the first place. If you go back now, it's not going to improve. It probably won't improve no matter what you do, but any impact that you might have made by breaking up with him will be lost, and then some, if you cave so quickly.

 

Just take a break from contacting him. Get your head right. Figure out what you want.