frederickkk Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 so i have an indefinite restraining order against ex and intuition, gut instinct, tells me she may come back????? am i deluded? despite everything that has happened, why does gut intuition tell me otherwise, that she may return?
Author frederickkk Posted August 7, 2013 Author Posted August 7, 2013 I am not crazy. Just mildly blown away from this situation.
unexpectedlyhere Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 Whether or not frederickk is a troll or crazy, Mack, I think your post above is a bit out of order! I guess the problem with people a bit out of order, is that they don't realise they're a bit out of order... at least in my eyes
jesse93 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 this "gut instinct" is just what you want to believe man, she got a restraining order for a reason and that was to get away from you. I don't think she wants to be back with you, you need to help yourself heal man. 1
supaflyz Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 You seriously think she going to come back? Maybe she will in the future, but just not now. I know you think that your relationship is different, but its all the same. 2
Author frederickkk Posted August 8, 2013 Author Posted August 8, 2013 She is either unfathomably cruel by giving me mixed messages and calling me on her new number coming out of a courtroom with an order or she is just nuts. If someone wanted somebody out of their life, they wouldn't keep the number on their phone.
Author frederickkk Posted August 8, 2013 Author Posted August 8, 2013 I might look like the 1 who is crazy, at the end of the day I knocked on her door after 6 months no contact and was arrested. She won't face up to it or see me because she knows old feelings will return. Point is, she will always love me as I do her.
TaraMaiden Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 I might look like the 1 who is crazy, at the end of the day I knocked on her door after 6 months no contact and was arrested. She won't face up to it or see me because she knows old feelings will return. Point is, she will always love me as I do her. Who cares? Block her number. She's your ex. Move on. Oh....wait.... haven't you been told that before? Like.... How many times - ?! I think your delusion may include the impression that anyone really cares any more, frederickkk. You need to quit posting here, because really, you're even losing the entertainment value - and you need to get professional, medical, certified help. In that order. And quickly, pet, okay? The NHS is there for you, at your disposal. Use it. 1
Renard99 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 I might look like the 1 who is crazy, at the end of the day I knocked on her door after 6 months no contact and was arrested. She won't face up to it or see me because she knows old feelings will return. Point is, she will always love me as I do her. Yes, I'm afraid you are delusional. You seem to know exactly what she's thinking and feeling better the she does. Thing is, you don't. You can't read her mind, yet your delusion makes you think you do. She could have made a few calls to you by accident..... but no, she 'loves you'. The calls may be to mess with your head.... no, she 'loves you'. She gets a restraining order because she doesn't want you around....... it's because she 'loves you too much'. They're all claims of someone who sounds delusional. I agree with TaraMaiden, and I've asked before, why are you still posting on here?. You've ignored all advice for a year and continually asked questions that you either don't want to hear or don't like the answers to. You seek help yet bury your head in the sand when someone tries to give it to you. As much as we'd like to help you're now into the realms of professional help. As Tara says, you have the NHS at your disposal, you be better off using it. Why did I even write this? You're not going to listen anyway... you never do. 1
Author frederickkk Posted August 8, 2013 Author Posted August 8, 2013 Instead of acting the way I did I should've gone strict Jo contact for two months. I didn't have the will power and never will. I will never let a woman **** me around ever again
TaraMaiden Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Follow advice, Fred. GET. HELP. Professional, help. help that will know how to guide and steer you towards coping with, and healing from, this problem. 2
robaday Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Why would you want her back? Why on earth would you want a woman who went to the authorities over you back? Someone you loved cared for who instead of talking to you in person called the police? Someone who contacted you knowing it would land you in deep trouble? Come on man, this girl is twisted and so are you at the moment - why on earth would you want someone who is capable of messing up your life like this? 1
Zahara Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 (edited) I was wondering what the commotion was all about. Then I read your threads. Wow! Man, people go to the police on someone because they want that person gone. Big KEEP AWAY red flashing sign. It's a last resort in getting someone that is obsessive to stay away. Why you think she is doing it because she can't face her feelings, is deluded, YES! At least you're asking so there may be some tiny hope you can see the other side of things. You need some help, stat. Sorry for you pain. You have put yourself through this for too long. Edited August 8, 2013 by Zahara 2
Author frederickkk Posted August 8, 2013 Author Posted August 8, 2013 im a bright guy. not obsessive. the pain is unbearable. if she misses me, she'll turn up
TaraMaiden Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 im a bright guy. Sadly, even the brightest people have flaws. not obsessive. Oh yes you are. the pain is unbearable. Oh no it's not. You've borne it this far....really, if you are truly, honestly and sincerely determined to move on, it gets better. if she misses me, she'll turn up Don't hold your breath. She's glad to be rid of you. Get her 'obvious love for you' clear out of your head, because that's actually the only place it really exists. Get professional help, Fred. You know that, at least, makes sense. 1
Zahara Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 im a bright guy. not obsessive. the pain is unbearable. if she misses me, she'll turn up You may be book smart, but that's about it. What you are doing in this area of your life, nothing at all bright about it. Merriam-Webster's Definition of Obsessive: a : tending to cause obsession b : excessive often to an unreasonable degree I would say getting to a point of a restraining order and spending more than a year circulating in the same pattern as excessive to an unreasonable degree. Oh, or maybe that is what bright people do. If she misses you she'll turn up? No, no. Once a girl goes police on you, no turning back. She's done. You've been placed in oblivion. 2
AlexDP Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 so i have an indefinite restraining order against ex and intuition, gut instinct, tells me she may come back????? am i deluded? despite everything that has happened, why does gut intuition tell me otherwise, that she may return? One of my best mates is facing jail for life for a crime he says he didn't commit. I don't know why you think you have the right to be depressed about some loser girl you lost, because you're an even bigger loser. All you need to do is wake the **** up and realize you don't have a care in the world. Screw her. 1
AlexDP Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 im a bright guy. not obsessive. the pain is unbearable. if she misses me, she'll turn up You have lost the right to be sad a long time ago. A day of mourning your relationship is acceptable. Two days is understandable. Three days is pushing it. I have zero compassion for you after a year. All you're doing is trivialize REAL problems other people have. 1
Author frederickkk Posted August 8, 2013 Author Posted August 8, 2013 I've explained how I feel to her. I told her in a room that I would never feel that way for someone else in my lifetime. She cried when I told her. I don't know where to go from here. But as each day goes by, it gets worse. I hope it can only get better.
Author frederickkk Posted August 9, 2013 Author Posted August 9, 2013 To a mental health expert...Can I ask have you considered it? All I want is 1 conversation, tell her I want to spend the rest of my life with her. And leave it there.
jesse93 Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 All I want is 1 conversation, tell her I want to spend the rest of my life with her. And leave it there. But what happens when she says no, I don't want to spend my life with you.. then what? 1
TaraMaiden Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 All I want is 1 conversation, tell her I want to spend the rest of my life with her. And leave it there. But frederikkk - YOU'VE ALREADY TOLD HER!! I've explained how I feel to her. I told her in a room that I would never feel that way for someone else in my lifetime. She cried when I told her. Either the break was recent, or she was crying in despair, man... I don't know where to go from here. To see if you can get to consult a psychiatrist. But as each day goes by, it gets worse. I hope it can only get better. YOU make it worse. Only you can make it better. It's up to you. Otherwise, you'll still be here next year, same time, same gripe...
Hoaks Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 Dont mean to mess his head up anymore but my ex got a restraining order on the guy before me, after a year shes back with him. But, the difference is she is a using cow, and only with him to manipulate her way back into his circle of friends. Surely frederikkk you have met some other girls in all this time?
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