DLPB Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 I was friends with my bf for 3 years before we ever started dating. We have now been in a committed relationship for 2 years and living together for a year and a half. He had a live in gf for 10 years prior to us getting together. She works for him at his company. She is a hypocondriac (sp) and continues to use false illnesses for attention. On top of that he never finalized his divorce from his wife - been separated for 12 years. I finally gave him an ultimatum in July that he either finalize his divorce and make his relationship with his ex-gf Business only - no more details of how her breast biopsies are leaking or she had a reaction to her meds and woke up naked and can't be to work on time - Simply Boss/employee discussions such as I will be late, or I will not be in today- or I was going to leave. He says he knows he has to take care of this stuff and that he loves me, and begged me not to leave. My question is how long do I wait before I revisit the issues and ask where he is at with things and how much longer do I wait before I just cut ties and leave?
Treasa Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 I think you should leave now, or he'll try and get away with this for as long as he can. He can always try to get you back by showing actions. Words are cheap.
sdraw108 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 My question is how long do I wait before I revisit the issues and ask where he is at with things and how much longer do I wait before I just cut ties and leave? A week? That's plenty time to get the ball rolling by speaking to a lawyer, or sending off initial paperwork, etc. If he cares, he shouldn't delay things any further.
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