mrbrightside14 Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 (edited) 25 y.o. male who's never been in a serious, long-term relationship. I've gone on numerous dates with numerous women. Longest thing I've had with someone was a three-month-long friends with benefits kind of deal. I always end up having a few-week-long or a few-month-long thing with a girl who hooks up with me on the first date. Very little success with girls who hold out for sex. I've always wanted to be in a relationship since I was 17 or so, but it hasn't happened yet. I've gone on two dates with a woman who's a few years older than me. First date happened about 6 wks ago. It was brief but ended with a nice kiss. I had to be out of town for 4 wks, so we could only keep in touch via texts and online for weeks. Second date happened 5 days ago. It went pretty well, and we made out a lot throughout the evening. No sex. Two days later, we briefly hung out at her place in the afternoon and cuddled a bit. Still, no sex. Don't get me wrong; sex isn't the only thing I am after. I actually find this woman really attractive in many ways so far. I see her as my potential girlfriend. She seems to like me as well, but I can't fully gauge her interest level because we still haven't had sex yet. I have no problem waiting, but it is something I need in order to see how much she wants me. She let me know that we can't hang out for the next 10 days or so because an out-of-state friend is visiting her. Even though I'm very curious about this "friend," I haven't asked her anything about him/her. I don't wanna seem desperate. Also, I wanna give her some room so that she can take some time to evaluate what we have going on right now. We haven't spoken since three days ago. For now, I won't call or text her first. I am sure she'll contact me if she misses me. I just wanna keep escalating the sexual tension between me and her. Am I going about it the right way? As someone who's never been in a serious relationship, I am asking you guys for opinions. Thanks. Edited August 7, 2013 by mrbrightside14 messed up
Treasa Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 Well damn. I thought you meant you had two dates with two different girls. I was coming in here to tell you to celebrate. That being said, unless you've had that talk, you're not exclusive, so go out and get a second date. If it bothers you, just ask her if she's planning on seeing other guys. That way you can plan accordingly.
Author mrbrightside14 Posted August 7, 2013 Author Posted August 7, 2013 Well damn. I thought you meant you had two dates with two different girls. I was coming in here to tell you to celebrate. That being said, unless you've had that talk, you're not exclusive, so go out and get a second date. If it bothers you, just ask her if she's planning on seeing other guys. That way you can plan accordingly. We certainly aren't exclusive, yet. My question is, do I text/call this girl while I don't get to see her? Or should I just do nothing for now?
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