Laser Posted November 3, 2004 Posted November 3, 2004 This is a re-post because I am new to this. Plus I didn't get many replies because my thread sucked. I am 34 she is 22. She asks me out. She thought I was like 24 or so, because of my baby face. And that first night we had sex. I told her I was surprise this happen and she told me that she only wants a "booty call“ She was on the rebound too. So, we became "friends with benefits", but the sex was terrible. We are still friends; we hang out almost every weekend. She now has a boyfriend of 4 months. And sometimes he is around when we hang out. I really like this girl, even though she is such a bitch at times. And even though she so judgmental of every one and me at times (immaturity and low self esteem on her part I think). She is like that mostly around her friends when I am with her. Its feels like Beauty and the Breast, but I am not sure which is which. But when we are alone we get along really good. We talk on the phone at least a couple times a week. Since our age difference is so big, I always think that we have nothing in common. Because I am lost for words sometimes. But that could be that, I am shy and quiet. That’s why it’s been a long time since I had a girlfriend. She is the one that’s talks the most. We mostly talk about work because that is where we met. I guess I am confused as to "why does she want to hang out with me, still.". What am I, just a good friend or I am a backup (booty call) for her, when they breakup? Not that she really has anything to look forward too. But, we tried 6 times to have good sex, over two months that’s what makes me feel like she would give me another chance. All I really want to do is just find someone else, but it’s hard when you haven't had much success. All my friends think this weird that we hang out so much. Do you too?
greenlove Posted November 3, 2004 Posted November 3, 2004 Look hun I'm 22 and I have no business being with a 34 yr. old man I don't know why you don't understand this situation but you need to get you head straight. You say the sex was terrible but your posting this thread up to understand something. Do you want approval for what your doing …b/c I’m not going to give it to you. You say you don’t have much in common gee I wonder why. You are a booty call but you should be ashamed for responding to a girl that obviously doesn’t have hear head straight.
JackieQ Posted November 9, 2004 Posted November 9, 2004 hmmmm... it never is easy. greenlove is probably right that the relationship isn't good for her...but sounds like it isn't all that good for you either or you wouldn't be questioning the way things are. Seems to me that she's filling a need you have though...and that's pretty human. You say you'd like to meet other girls but are shy and quiet. What do you like to do? The bar scene is one way to meet women. But...there's lots of quiet activities out there just full of single women (believe me as a single woman I know...I get tired of going to them to meet men and just finding other single women ). I'm thinking stuff along the lines of book clubs, film discussion groups, travel clubs, art classes, etc...you figure out what you like and find some group for it. May sound kinda dorky but having something to discuss kinda removes the initial awkwardness and allows you to relax. And, if you're a little gunshy, you can take smaller steps than the typical bar scene where you jump in the deep end to start with... Take care, Jackie
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