head/heels Posted November 14, 2004 Share Posted November 14, 2004 yeah, just offering up one possible take on it....guess it is really hard for me to understand your feelings after 1.5 years of NC....i am not there yet...I can see that you do not care one way or the other how it turns out with her since she isnt showing you she is mature enough for you yet anyway! how sad that she hasnt changed much in almost 2 years! I guess you are in the drivers seat so to speak and she has to measure up to what your standards are! Well, i just want to apologize for the unsolicited advice.... i know it was a very childish way to proceed but i was thinking maybe she would respond to a little jealousy....woman are so frustrating! well enjoy your steak and i hope she either comes around and stops being immature or she ****s or gets off the pot! how old is she? (you are slightly older than her right?) i think she is 23 and you are 27 ...am i right? good luck Link to post Share on other sites
djones Posted November 14, 2004 Share Posted November 14, 2004 Hey Guys, first welcome back HandH!!! I am glad you had a very good experiene in Haiti....Boy just reading your story just brought back so many memories of living on the Domincan Republic....hehe I saw pretty mucht the same conditions that people live down there, the lack of medical stuff, clean h2o, supplies, electricity....You try of help as many as you can, I think the best thing though is to ship the stuff down ie food med, I dont know if money will get to were it supposed to you go (you know what I mean), send the kids books and stuff like that, but I am sure this priest is a honest guy....hehe the women, they are beautiful all over the island, I know what you aretlking about seeing brown skined or light brown skin women with blue eyes...absolutely beautitful!!....they are everywhere...heheheh I often kid my class mates you cant find an ugly dominican woman down here....Man Its nice to see it in your words how you changed in a very good way seeing how things back here are so insigificant compaired to there where survial is a way of life.......that would be cool to see your pictures and your lovely little chica!!!....oh HandH yeah you will get a lot women after saygin they love you and want to marry you buddy and some are for real and some just for the ride to USA....but you cant blame them, look at what they have, pretty much nothing.....hehe that reminds me one domicna woman did the same to me, very attractive women, green eye and she said she loved me, I was taken back by it all she was the same age as me......well I am glad you are back buddy! Well Gang here is an update with me I went out with the new girl last night, we had a good time, we went to a hard rock cafe and went to a dance club....well we got to the dance club and we found that we were ealry so we got drinks and found a nice sofa....well the whole night we ended up just talking in a dance club....my throat is so sore today!!......Well at the end of the night we hugged and said good night....this morn she msn me and says that she had a good time ,,yada yada, then she asked me out for next sat she did not want to wiat just in case i had plans...so I said sure.....guys this girl likes me man and I dont what to do about it....i did tell ehr that i was in a realtionship and I still getting over that (i did not tell her I still love my ex) she said thats ok and that fine I want to go slow fine....she said she was trying to be flirty with me (its hard for her to do that) and she likes to be around me....I do like being with her...she has a few quircks I dont like one thing is that she smokes, but she said she is trying to quit...I guess beeing a doc it bothers me plus kissing a girl that smokes for me aleast not the best experience for me.....So I this point I dont know what to do...I still love my ex but I dont know whats going to happen with her and this new chick is real cool , I dont know if I have feelings for her maybe its just too soon..... any thgouhts guys? Link to post Share on other sites
head/heels Posted November 14, 2004 Share Posted November 14, 2004 Just keep up with getting yourself better Doc! That is all you can do....workout, eat well, talk to her on the phone, work, do hobbies and dont think about your ex....that is the only way to a. get over her in case she never comes around b. make her think that you are totally over her c. allow her to miss you since you are not at her every beckon call d. allow for new interest in your life to fulfill her #1 position that she currently (still) holds... Give this new girl a chance....just be friends and tell her not to expect too much more right now...she will understand .....oh and try not to go through the whole ex thing with her...it sounds like you stayed away from the topic! Good job, i know how hard it is not to try to get another womans perspective on the situation....believe me i know.. dont look back and do what you want to do for your life, do not sacrifice your morals though.....that is unacceptable and will ultimately make you feel worse as a person! i think my ex has sacrifice her morals and more and i am sure she is going to go deep into her well before she comes out for fresh air oh well, se la vie, I ordered my creole books today and developed my flash cam pics....my friends 175 pics are being sent to me on a disc so i will need some help figuring out how to pput them up here or somewhere so you guys can see what Haiti and the people are living like.....all in all the trip was so fun and so rewarding (not to mention we helped so many people become a little bit healthier) and we probably saved about 6 lives just in the time we were down there....there really is no telling how many we saved that had acute infections in their bodies that we gave 5 cc of ampicillen! 2 with TB 1 with acute appendisitis (sp) 1 with dehydration/malnutrition 2 with breast cancer that we excised! So i cant wait to go again! Hang in there DOC, it gets better.... MJ- be strong and if he calls .....what are you going to do? answer it, or not? Where is Nick btw? Link to post Share on other sites
atlous Posted November 14, 2004 Share Posted November 14, 2004 Ask If I can come! LOL I am serious I would go out to help. Do they accept canadian RN"s well I will be in a year. Are you going out again? I will go to if it is for that period of time hell ya. seriously though how did you cope with all the attention and them being so malnurished did you feel out of place? I heard some RN that have went there to help told me that they were over weight and the villagers bugged the **** out of them. IT is not something I have to worry about I just would not want to seem like I was above them in any way. Do they make you feel that way? I love working with people and I love that as a RN well my first degree will bring me on the front line. Sounds corny but we are they at their most vulnerable moments of their life. They never forget you for you helped them through the worst time of their lives. My proff told us that we are held liable if we are on the scene of an accident and do not perform interventions. I was like holy sheet now I am in deep. WHat the hell I am so deathly afraid of someone coding and now I am held responsible YIKES! THere is a comfort zone that comes with being a student and now we are being thrown in the fire! I am ready for the challenge and that is why I don't think I will stop my education at the RN level I am ready for more Bring it! Link to post Share on other sites
head/heels Posted November 14, 2004 Share Posted November 14, 2004 yeah, you dont have to be an RN to go or a M.D. ....just someone willing to help... the other guy that went with us is in his final year of law school and he sutured up a guys head his first day out! so you will be ahead of the game....!!! We are going again in march or april and the cost of the trip is probably near $1000 which is almost all airfare there and back as the parish houses you and i think we each gave the father $100 dollars for the week for the food (even though he didnt ask for it) So, we are trying to find cheap flights now so that we can get more people to go so i will keep you posted on dates, costs, and all that! Still need help with exporting pics online so you can see... Oh, the people are not hassling! Only 3 school aged children asked me for money in the town of Plaine - du - Nord.....outside of the city some people did ask but you just tell them you are not able to give them money or maybe when you come back...they understand...or the best is to just say you dont understand in english or creole (Mwen pa koppran)... they get the picture usaully and it is only the kids asking... but in the town we were in they were so happy and grateful we were there that they were giving us stuff and telling us how grateful they were.... they are not so malnurished like on tv in africa or whatever....just lacking proper nutrients... they eat, but not all the right things... Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 heels, dude don't apologize for offering some advice. It was good advice and if I actually "cared" more about the stuff with her I would do what you said. You are right, it is sad she hasn't grown up in almsot 2 years. The funny thing is IMO she has regressed in maturity or maybe she was always like this but kept it hidden from me when we were together. The beauty is that I am sure she thinks she is all mature and stuff when she isn't. This is my guess for the convo during dinner Friday: her- me me me me me me me me me me me me me me me me me me me me- I jsut killed 5 people her- oh really? that's nice.... me me me me me me me me me me me me me me- uh huh her- me me me me me me me me me me me me me me- man you are boring her- me me me me me me me me me me me me me me- thanks for dinner and while I enjoyed the hour of you talking about yourself and your job could you please take me home her- you are so stubborn and think I have all this time to talk to you when I am busy doing nothing except sitting at home watching tv me- wha? her- I will now go and avoid talking to you for 2 weeks. that is how it will be:) Yeah she is 23. I turn 26 this week. Link to post Share on other sites
bigacesteve Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 Weird, Yea whenever I used to meet up with my ex ex ex many years ago, she would just talk about herself. One time she was waffling on about herself and that she'd been dating someone I knew, wouldn't tell me who (another story). She then lit a cigarette and starting blowing the smoke in my face; she never smoked when I was seeing her, I knew she had the odd crafty one. Hate smoking; you're right drjones, the taste when kissing a smoker is gross. I though sod this, took her home and left it at that. The look on her face was a picture. Went Nottingham this weekend so there was no chance of bumping into the ex. Really good night with 8 of my mates. Some lads tried to mug 2 of us at the end of the night which was hilarious. I'm 6ft 7, weight 100kg and I'm a 3rd Dan Black Belt, my friend is a stocky lad, about the same weight, good with sticks. The muggers were a 5ft 1? youth carrying a snooker ball in a sock and another 2 small lads (boys), unarmed. Because I start in the Police in January I told my friend that we couldn't batter them because then we'd get arrested for assault and my career would be over before it starts. We managed to get out of the alley way without getting hit; I used my chips and chicken as an effective weapon, "you want my chips? Well have them!!" I covered the youths in chips, mayonaise and fried chicken, I was laughing my ass off. When we got out of the alleyway the police were there waiting. They'd seen us on camera. They arrested the 3 lads and we had a good laugh with the coppers. I asked them loads of questions about being a police officer and I can't wait to start. Really made my night. The lads were on the back seat of the police car cuffed; we gave them the finger and went back to the hotel. Starting to feel good again about being single. It's Monday and I don't feel gutted like I have all the other Mondays before. Could be because we're playing Halo 2 all the time at home on X Box Live? My ex wouldn't have liked me playing it all the time, but she's not here anymore, ha ha ha. If any of you lot are on there we're called 'Stokies'. drjones, good lad with going out on a date with that girl. It's always hard going out with someone new, always comparing. Just enjoy it for now. Hope she gives up smoking, it's bloody vile. Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 hahaha badass story and it is a shame you couldn't have messed them up. I know what you mean about being able to play video games all you want when single. Being single is great because you don't have any added stress or someone bitching at you for doing something you like to do. Now if one can find a girl who is cool with all that and won't bitch and moan then thats the best thing to have. Sadly, i don't think many women like that exist. As for smoking, yeah it is nasty and I would never date a smoker. a co-worker of mine smokes and she is with a guy who doesn't. Don't know he deals with it and dont know why she won't make the effort to quit. Oh wait I forgot....smokers dont give a fug about the people around them so silly me for thinking she may actually try to better herself and make it easier on the guy for being around her disgusting ass. Link to post Share on other sites
LexiB Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 Starting to feel good again about being single. It's Monday and I don't feel gutted like I have all the other Mondays before. Could be because we're playing Halo 2 all the time at home on X Box Live? My ex wouldn't have liked me playing it all the time, but she's not here anymore, ha ha ha. --bigacesteve I know what you mean about being able to play video games all you want when single. Being single is great because you don't have any added stress or someone bitching at you for doing something you like to do. Now if one can find a girl who is cool with all that and won't bitch and moan then thats the best thing to have. Sadly, i don't think many women like that exist. --weird hmm...actually, I know a lot of women (under a pretty broad age range) and dont know too many who wld complain abt their guys playing video games...as long as they're not neglecting other responsibilities whats the big deal?? Hell, I'm an addict myself Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 cool. I know of ladies (in 20s) who would complain if their guy decided to play games with his buddies for say, a whole week rather than spend time with them or somethng like that. My ex was and is still great...she would have a habit of calling me when I was in the middle of watching a movie or something and I would tell her I was busy and couldn't talk and of course she would sorta get pissy. She didn't say anything but I could tell she was upset I would not stop what I was doing simply because she was calling me. If the day ever comes that I meet a female (in person not on here that is) who isn't so selfish and demanding they are the center of the universe I'll prolly have a heart attack or get hit by a bus. Link to post Share on other sites
LexiB Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 hmm, Weird, I dont know abt playin games for a whole week straight--your gurl's gonna need some lovin too Anyway, I havent given a progress report in some time so... Good news--I finally allowed myself to start dating again! And I have been--alot actually (men in the tri-state area, WATCH OUT ) No, I havent turned into a "ho" or anything lol, these are STRICTLY hang-outs, no freaky-diky or anything like that involved, I promise But really the past few weeks have been a great reminder that I can go out and have fun---- w/o whats his name. I did have a life before I met him and that shouldnt and WONT change just because hes not "my man" anymore. Theres actually one guy that ive known for a few years but until we started hanging out, I never realized we had so much in common--even more so than i had w/ the ex, which I didnt think was possible. 2 biggies: He's an artist (like me) and he even likes theater (yes I mean broadway, and no, hes not gay ). Like I said, none of these dates are serious at all, but I have been having fun and thats what I need right now Link to post Share on other sites
head/heels Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 WEIRD- ok , i wont apologize...sucks that your ex sucks so bad about the immaturity and all....mine does too, but she never seemed that immature to me during the relationship....just since she broke it off did i realize that the way she handled it was selfish and very immature and the fact she didnt talk to me about her feelings for 8-9 months is unacceptable and just shows me how small of a person she is (sadly she thinks of herself as that small of a person too) and how nieve i was in the relationship... i guess i thought she was the one and i could trust her til the "oceans dried up" (her words, no actually it was "i will love you until the oceans dry up" and "i love you more than you love carrot cake" ---i really enjoy carrot cake-alot) so i am still downtrodden that she never really gave her self to me even though she said and acted like she did....ouch! BAS- way to go on getting the f out of the ex's domain...she is a crazy CHILD, like all of our exes...could it be that we are just harping on them because they dumped us and we really didnt deserve it...are we just in denial that maybe that they just lost attraction for us and maybe we are wrong in calling them immature?? I dont think so but it sure does sound like we are and that we were dumbshiiits for being with these people we obviously didnt truly know!.. anyhow, i know your ex is immmature based on the whole coming back for that one night or so and messing with your mind....she is nutty and i am sure that is what alot of our exes would do to us if we let them.....once they see they can have us again, they take advantage of us just like they prolly did in the relationship, but we were to in love and too much of a giver (sorry about subject verb agreement there) to see past it.... LEXI B- keep on going out and dont sacrifice those morals! you are worthy of a real man and you dont need to be lifted up by sleeping with some random so that you feel better about yourself...it will only make you feel worse... .i am sad that i bet my ex might be or is doing that with this guy because she is hurting in her self esteem and she is sad over us being apart (even though she chose it)....she was not like that with me or before but i think she is totally losing it now and i cannot do anything but sit here and wonder..... I want so bad to call her and help her if she would be responsive but i know she wouldnt be and she would just agree with me that she is fing up her life , but she wouldnt stop it bc she isnt strong enough.....she is too prideful to call me and admit she is doing ****ttttyyy (even though she did give in once and tell me how poorly her life has been since she left me-but she never mentioned it again in the week b4 i found out the truth about her wanting to date this guy she knew from her hometown..--which is a trash heap with very trashy friends....i am not just venting , even she would tell me how trashy and bad off her freinds were back at home, and when she would go home to visit she would try to avoid them during the middle of our relationship bc she knew they were no good and were poorly raised....now she is hanging out with them again and dating one of their friends...possibly the old bf who made her self-esteem so low in the first place.....I JUST WANT TO CALL HER AND ASK HER IF SHE KNOWS WHAT THE F SHE IS DOING TO HER LIFE>>>>>> my best friend is in a similar situation....he is the only one that cares for her (although by his own admission he is overprotective, pushy, smothering, and annoying to her and every female he has every been with) but he cares for her and she used to be a good girl>>>>she is now failing out of college, got fired, has debt out the anus, and is drinking, smoking pot, and partying every other night and was found in a strip joint owners bed after he put a mickey in her drink......this was from a girl who did not used to even smoke cigarettes before she went wild!! HE IS SICK ABOUT IT BUT HE IS COMING TO THAT HE CANT DO ANYTHING FOR HER.... i feel like i left my (even though she chose to leave me) when she mgiht have needed me and now she is prolly dismal (or just fine) and could have really used me to help her see what she is doing to herself....I WANT TO CALL HER ......>>>>>>>>>>>i dont think she will ever have the balls to call me....ESPECIALLY after this trip to HAITI, i have seen what is really important and having her not throw away her life is important to me...i dont want her to do stupid ****e just be cause she doesnt feel pretty or what not.... ARRGG! listen to me, i am a grown man and am intelligent and i feel like poo bc she can do this to me....i have to realize she is a grown woman, at least by her age she is, and that she made these decisions consciously and that is what she chose and wanted....i cannot deny myself these facts and must face them and see that she is doing what she wants and if i am to hear from her , it will be like my last letter and contact with her said :by her procession.......45 days and counting...... meanwhile, i am dating and i cannot (how silly of me) stop thinking of the little island girl, Nirva, (well she is not little but in fact taller than me (she is about 6 foot) and modelesque...although my pictures with the disposable camera did not do her justice....hopefully she had some great ones with the digi camera...Well none the less, the Dr. i went with told me that if he was younger that he would be fighting me for her...that made me laugh....I am writing her in creole and i hope it comes out right....the first time i tried to kiss her , she was (i thought) telling me that she was scared or timid of me since she did not know me, so i grabbed her gently and told her (what i thought was to be ) dont be scared and then tried to smoothly and gently kiss her-oops! didnt go so well as i only go 1/2 of her lips...turns out she was saying she was COLD!!!!!!!!!! the next time was better though i must be rebounding or something, i am always remembering her smililing at me when i would say something wrong or tell her to smile.... i guess i will keep writing her and see what happens....any body see this ever coming to fruition? or am i just being naive again? 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head/heels Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 Read my above post and then answer these question....please.. Should i call her ? SHould i call her on / b4 thanksgiving to wish her and parents happy t day Should i send her (as someone on here suggested) a funny hand made (like when we were kids) turkey with some silly happy t-day saying on it? SHould i wait for christmas? SHould i wait for her to call me? Should i never call her, ever? oh and no cop-outs like : that is something you have to decide....i need an analytical answer like.....what are the pros and cons of the call...if that is possible, if not any things will suffice as i am grateful that you would even take the time to read....i really respect each and everyones answers/opinions on this specific site... btw where is nick? i hope he is ok with all that he has been through...god bless him Link to post Share on other sites
theone44 Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 Originally posted by head/heels Read my above post and then answer these question....please.. Should i call her ? SHould i call her on / b4 thanksgiving to wish her and parents happy t day Should i send her (as someone on here suggested) a funny hand made (like when we were kids) turkey with some silly happy t-day saying on it? SHould i wait for christmas? SHould i wait for her to call me? Should i never call her, ever? oh and no cop-outs like : that is something you have to decide....i need an analytical answer like.....what are the pros and cons of the call...if that is possible, if not any things will suffice as i am grateful that you would even take the time to read....i really respect each and everyones answers/opinions on this specific site... btw where is nick? i hope he is ok with all that he has been through...god bless him Well i wouldn't call her,but would send her the home-made card that would be very nice and sweet. I decided not to send my ex a Thanksgiving card,but i will send her a Christmas card. Do what your heart tell you to do but don't rush things women can sense it when you are trying to win them back just do a simple card with "Happy Thankgiving"but don't call her let her do the contacting.....not you Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 way to go on getting the f out of the ex's domain...she is a crazy CHILD, like all of our exes...could it be that we are just harping on them because they dumped us and we really didnt deserve it...are we just in denial that maybe that they just lost attraction for us and maybe we are wrong in calling them immature?? I dont think so but it sure does sound like we are and that we were dumbshiiits for being with these people we obviously didnt truly know!.. You know, technically I ended my relationship not my ex but the end of my relationship was very weird and I wont broe anyone trying to explain it. The only thing is I decided soon after it made more sense to work on problems rather than just end things so I wanted us to work stuff out and she didn't want to and I guess that could be seen as her ending the relationship. Basically, we both ended it at diff times but the official relationship was ended by me in her mind. So really, I do not feel dumped or anything like that. As for her, she is immature now and I also don't feel as though she was a person I just didn't know. She really did change when I was trying to work things out and she has stayed that way up until now. When we got together she acted very mature, had her crap together and so on but in early 2003 she just turned into a diff person (went through a pahse as she likes to call it) for whatever reason and now she is just....weird. Speaking of her, she called me tonight to talk about the dinner thing later this week. She said she called the restaurant to make a reservation but they don't accept reservations for that night so she asked if I was still fine with it. I said sure. Naturally she decided to analyze my answer and then asked fi I even want to go and if I dont to just say so because it isn't a big deal to her (yeah right) if I don't. I said I do want to go. She then asked me what time then would I want to go to the restaurant since we would be having to wait for a table. I said as soon as possible. She then said she coudl come to my place straight from work (she lives 35 mins away) and I said for her to do whatever is the easiest thing for her to do. She then asked if she should call or just show up. I said just show up. By this time she was getting all pissy and I ended the convo and it sure seemed like she was close to bitching at me especially with how she said bye. Now note there was NO reason for her to get all pissy but she did simply because she was analyzing my answers and I guess she felt the tone in which I was answering (not friggin jizzing all over the place but just answering in a nromal way) wasn't to her standards. Pretty damn silly but this is how she is...she has all these assumptions in her mind (ie me not wanting to go to dinner) and is basing things off those assumptions rather than reality. If she does this Friday night I am gonna chew her out because it is so friggin stupid. I swear, she is expecting me to show as much emotion/enthusiasm in my comments and stuff with her as I did when we were together...it seems to me she wants me to treat/communicate her the same way I did when we were together yet she won't do the same with me. Hilarious Link to post Share on other sites
Charlane Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 So why is it good for the ex to see you with a new person? He broke up with me in June after we were together for one year. I knew he was cheating and said nothing too. I treated him like gold. I decided to work on myself and got a makeover with growing my hair long, getting Cali-girl makeup and cutting all sugar, alcohol and red meat out of my diet along with daily running. This is the first time in years that I've slept eight hours a night and ever night too. I just started dating someone that is eleven years younger than me and he is so attentive and acts like the rest of the world fades when I am around. This guy is so tall and good-looking at 6'3" and degreed and a coach at a private university. I mean he is really hot. We look really good together (I'm bloody tall too). I can tell that we are envied when we enter a room even. I think he is immature though. Is it insane that I still wish that my ex would come back after all of this? I don't contact him at all and I'm sure he has been with someone these 5 months. I got word that he might be losing his job within the next few months as well. Someone explain to me what it is that I am feeling? I have this idea in the back of my head that I will run into him soon. I can handle it. I'm just trying to understand myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Charlane Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 This is a PS to the above. I think I let myself 'go' when we were together because I was focusing so hard on getting rich.....for the both of us. I'm the only female trader for oil and silver commodities on wall street from Texas with my own corporation. I'm not rich yet, but everything is in place for this to happen. I realize now that I should have focused more on what was good for me than anything else. Still, I'm worried that I might get involved with someone that might be childlike in loving tendencies and really childlike in responsibility and this was one thing that I admired about my ex even if he was a little stale. It seems like the only dates I'm getting asked on is by the 20 and 30 year olds (they have no idea of my work situation) and I am 43. I have lost count of how many dates I have rejected. I'm feeling so incredibly good that I have even been asked how long is it that I have been modeling. That is so wierd and I am a really simple person with no rush to plastic surgery or anything like that. It just feels so twisted because I do believe that my ex left me for someone younger. He acted so hateful to me when we parted and I never, ever begged him or called him. I just couldn't let go of my self-respect like that. Your thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
djones Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 Hey HandH, To answer your question, I would say send a t-day card, just say happy t-day I hope all is well with you....leave it open and maybe she will reply and let you know how she is doing....dont call her let her make the next move.... Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 charlane, fire me over a picture of yourself since you have hyped up yourself to be the worlds most attractive human nd I will give you my honest opinion of your appearance. Good to hear you havent let your ex take away your self respect or control your life and it is his loss if you treated him like gold and he decided to cheat on you and get with someone else. also, may I suggest not bragging about how good looking your guy is because that is pretty silly to base a relationship off of. I should try that... "I am dating this amazing blonde bombshell who every guy wants to hump when she is out in public. She is a chainsaw weilding mass murderer but thats beside the point. She is hot!" Link to post Share on other sites
Charlane Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 You might be right about my pumping up his looks. It just seems like everyone is so involved in superficial situations like this now. Maybe not everyone, but when you see Makeover this and that and Rich lifestyles, etc. you know that this mindset permeates society as a whole. Besides that, it is a whole new world for me that someone with these looks is paying this kind of attention to me. Here is a picture from my yahoo profile: http://profiles.yahoo.com/sheisaceo I look a little chunky here but lost 10 lbs. I have myself listed as married because I go to the commodities forums and these are mostly comprised of guys. Really, I think I look better than the picture because with heels I'm at about 6'2". I'm sorry if it sounds like I am beating my own soap box. This is new territory for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 just make sure you be in a relationship with someone for their personality/brain not their physical appearance. That's all. Link to post Share on other sites
head/heels Posted November 17, 2004 Share Posted November 17, 2004 I AM KINDA IN LIMBO ABOUT what to do..... i want to extend a hand to her if she is thinking about me and doesnt have the guts to call bc we havent spoke in 7 weeks and she is a total wussy.... but i also dont want to negate these 7 weeks of me getting better and actual going days without dwelling on the what ifs and not thinking about her somedays.....or these 7 weeks of her thinking she has lost me (if that is the case in her view- i might hope to be that lucky that she is going through a little regret and confusion on the whole breakup now)....... i would hate for her to think ---he is still not over me, or maybe i can build back my self esteem by talking to him.... so i received some great advice from a friend earlier and i think it might be better to let her go and just keep trying to move on and not speak to her....i dont think i would like to find out what she has been up to since she turned into a raging, hormonal terror that i have concocted in my mind.....i can only pray, but deep down i know that she has passed the point of me ever accepting her back, (if it ever came to that ) and she will one day cry over me and i know it will be tooo late...i hate it when people are either not honest with themselves or worse yet, not honest with their lover... ouch.... Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 17, 2004 Share Posted November 17, 2004 heels, agreed. god to hear your ex is a wussy like mine. Link to post Share on other sites
head/heels Posted November 17, 2004 Share Posted November 17, 2004 Weird- you were the owner of that good advice from a "friend".....i think it is on point, but then there is that little voice in my head that always wants to chance it!!! i occasionally have to squash him!.....or have you guys help me get my head on straight! Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 17, 2004 Share Posted November 17, 2004 haha yeah the little voice can sure be a prick and get us into bad situations. Link to post Share on other sites
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