How Long For Nc Until The Ex Knows They Have Messed Up!

[Charlane]

That's it for me then. I must have stayed here too long.

[Weird]

Oh yeah...

 

I have an update from Nick. he has dubbed me his official thread spokesperson:)

 

He never got a reply from his ex over the congrats email and then the e-card he sent so he sent her a "final" email this week basically chewing her out because she is acting like a 5 year old by not replying to him.

 

He is ready to move on and leave this crazy broad in his past since she doesnt even have the courtesy to send him a quick reply even if it was only to tell him to fug off and leave her alone.

 

She bugs me but right now she is acting a lot like my ex did last year. Incidentally, they both have the same name and my ex is a year older than his and sure enough, she is acting the same way my ex did when she was his ex's age.

 

Funny to me

 

I want to know where my sis is. I miss MJ:(

[Weird]

Originally posted by Charlane

That's it for me then. I must have stayed here too long.

 

Funny how you taking that type of action does not surprise me.

 

I have no idea why you get so defensive and take things so personally. I merely make two comments (I am after all allowed to have my own opinion, right?) and you somehow turn it into something else in your own little world. Funny to me but not surprising.

 

If you can't see how silly it is to make a comment that you are CERTAIN you can do something no other female on this planet can do then hey, not my problem.

[mj108]

Weird---Hey little bro! Sorry I've been busy at work & been going out every night this week. Trying to keep my mind off the ex.

I agree with Nick---you're the thread spokesperson. ha I told Nick not to send the letter. You and I finally disagreed over something...hmm..just like bro & sis. lol Anyway, I told Nick not to waste his time sending it.

Congrats on the new car! We need to go to Australia soon. BTW---ask out the receptionist!

 

Charlane---Congrats on your new car! Sounds nice. I call my car the Spideymobile. ha I've been reading about what you say about the economy etc. Check this out---When I was on the phone with the ex he told me he was about to lose everything (probably cause he's drinking his money away). Anyway, he knows I'm stable...I have a great job I'm fixing to take over in March, I'm selling my house, & I also have rental property. I mean, I've got my sh*t going on---career wise. Well, Psycho wacko does not work. My question is Do youi think he made up an excuse about "psycho wacko" wanting to talk to me, just so I would pity him & tell him to come back to me?

 

Kodiak---I've been there. I called my exes cell a long time ago & she picked up. Of course, I hung up. Anyway, I think you do need to get fact first...maybe it was someone else. I think if she is seeing someone else---if he picked up...I think she left her cellphone somewhere & it was by accident. I know you are hurting...& I hate that. I do think you need to call her as soon as you want to because if you wait around it's going to bother the heck out of ya because you don't know the person that picked up. I would get it over with & text her.

 

drjones---Thanks for all your advice. BTW---GET THAT KISS FROM NEW CHICK!

 

Atlous---Good luck on the finals & let us know how you do, girl! Thanks for the advice & Keep in touch.

 

BigaceSteve---Keep your guard up. Be strong!

 

H/H--I think the ex will always want what he can't have. I think if him and I got back together, I couldn't ever trust him again, you know? Good to hear from ya. Me and Matt have been hanging out & it really has helped me a lot (on forgetting about the ex). I didn't get to see him lastnight but I did hang out with friends---trying to keep myself busy.

 

Well, take care everyone! Chat with you all soon.

 

MJ

[Weird]

MJ,

 

heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeey sis.

 

Good to ehar you have been busy. Niiiice.

 

As for the last email Nick sent...he told me after the fact. Had he told me he was gonna send soemthing beforehand I'd ahve todl him to not waste his time. Oh well. At least his mind is a little mroe at ease from doing what he did.

 

Yes, we need to go to the outback sooooon

[djones]

Hey Guys,

 

Weird---hehehe I dont think that woman navgator option comes standard, boy would I pay for that in my car .....

 

HandH---Glad to hear you are getting over your ex and moving on, boy it seems like you have some good pickings....just take your time and find a good girl you deserve one!

 

Kodiak--- Buddy hang in there, just keep busy and try not to think about her much i know thats hard, but you got to keep you sanity....i know the sleepless nights and not eating, its just going to hurt you more...if she calls you will deal with it then...untill then dont slip into that heartbreak like we both went through in the begining...

 

Nick---buddy just forget about her dont waste any more effort on her, work onyour self and see what happens with your new chick...

 

Uptdate on me I talked to thenew chick last night for 2 hours it was great, I am starting to like her more and more...so we will see how it plays out, I still have my guard up and its making me kind of hesitant of telling her that I like her....maybe time will cure that.....take care

[kodiak]

Hey Everybody-

 

Hows everyone doing? I hope better than I am. Its been kinda hard since she called last week. I guess because of the whole situation. I know that i just have to let her go and move on with my life. I just cant and I dont know why. I have so many opportunities to take girls out and all i do is think about my ex. The ex that probably doesnt give me a thought except for when she gets a card or something. I wish I knew what happened with her and the whole move. It kills me to not be a part of that anymore. Im thinking about giving it like a month and see if i hear anything and if not send her a letter or call her. i would rather call but its so hard to hear her voice on the line sometimes. I mean six months and it still hurts. Alot of you here feel that i should do that and i think that i might. I mean i cant get over that message that she left me and what appeared to me was the sadness in her voice. I mean maybe it wasnt sadness but i know that something wasnt right. Hell for all I know she could have moved with her new BF ( the guy on the phone) and is happier than shes ever been before. I look back on our relationship and it hurts because I loved her so much and treated her so well. I guess it wasnt ebough to keep her loving me. I was talking to a girl "FRIEND" of mine tonight and she was asking how i was feeling. Then we started talking about being the first in a relationship to say "I love you". I told her how my ex told me first and it was the first time that she said it to a BF first. I remember like it was yesterday. I was holding her in my arms at the airport before she had to leave to go home. She looked up at me with those big blue eyes that were full of little tears and said " I Love You". It was amazing and i hold that memeory in a spot in my heart forever. I was telling this girl that I know my ex is my soulmate but i just am not hers. Anyways im starting to get sad so im going to wrap it up and hit the sheets. So I will keep you all posted. I mean do you guys think that since she has moved i will ever here from her again or no? what do you all think? It kills me that she will have a new number and a new adress and I dont know it. I think that if it was a new BF that picked up he didnt give her the message. Oh well he was dick or sure sounded like one. Hope everyone is doing well. Do you all still think that if somethings meant to be it will work out? My mom keeps telling me that but im begginning to not see it anymore and thats not like me at all. Well Take Care my friends...........................Kodiak

[djones]

Hey Guys,

 

Kodiak---hang in there buddy...just keep doing what you are doing and try not to think about her....I know its hard, but just have to wait and see what happens....

 

As for me guys yesterday I got an e-mail from the ex, it actually suprised me, she asked how I was doing and how my dad was (she knew from the past he was sick)....it was a few line e-mail....but what got me thinking is that she called my by a short name and she only called me that when we were together, since our break up its been my full name...so I dont know what's up with that...I kept the reply very simple saying i was doing fine and just busy with the business and my dad is doing good, and I said I hope all is weel with you....she replied that she is ok but her borther is moveing back home.....and then she asked me again so are there are any other news with you?....I sent a reply that i am doing fine and i just got an office with my dad.....I dont know if she was fishing for something else...i dont know I just left it at that....she did not reply with a follow up e-mail.....well anythoughts guys...

 

hey kodiak I have you re -read your post, i am just going to take my mom to the docs and i didnot read your post fully....i will post later take care all

[Weird]

doc,

 

sounds like she is fishing.

 

 

As for me, I am in a serious female hating mood today so I shall refrain from saying anything.

[WantanS4]

HAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

That's all I've got to say!

[gwennebe]

2 years

[djones]

Hey Guys,

 

Weird--- yeah I think so too...Well I am not going to fish, if she wants to talk then its up to her...as for me I am going out with the new girl tommorow we have a wholeday planned which is going to be nice....

 

WantanS4--- How are you doing buddy?....Give us post update on you!!

[atlous]

Hey WANTAN my main man how have U been missed ya!

 

Atous

[WantanS4]

HELLO ALL!!! I hope you are all doing well (haven't read all the posts yet).

 

How am I?? Not too good. Lately, I find myself thinking about her (hence I'm reading loveshack again) and replaying all the disatrous comments we made to each other when it ended. She hasn't called, I haven't called her. Time is passing by and the lack of communication signifies that it's trully utterly forever over.

 

I guess I'm okay. A bit lonely every now and then, but.... I guess okay. Would be nice to hold her hand, but I can't and won't.

 

I suppose there's something better for me out there... although I have considred the idea that I won't find another, that I'm done.

 

In some ways I hope she's happy, and from her lack of communication or contact, I suppose she is. Maybe she's even dating again..... which I guess is good for her.

 

Honestly, I don't know how I'm doing. I'm torn between hoping and not hoping. I'm torn between waiting and not waiting (but then again, what's the difference). I'm torn between wondering who I am and what I want and wondering what she thinks and if she even thinks about us.

 

Merry Christmas.... not soo much. Happy New Year... unlikey. Happy birthday...... huh, yeah right!

 

All I want for christmas is what I had. A second chance........ with who she was, who I remember.

 

So... I guess I'm okay.

[Weird]

damn dude, sorry to hear you have relapsed in your healing. I am confident she thinks about you a lot even if by chance she's with someone else.

 

All I want for Christmas is for things to turn out great for all you fine people.

[WantanS4]

Do you guys think I should send her a card?? Or clall her on christmas day?

 

My mom thinks I hsould call her now... and htat if I really love her, insist she make an effort to work things out. I don't know.... I don't think it'll make much difference.

 

hmmmm what do you guys think?

[Weird]

if sending a card or whatever will help ease your mind and it is what you truly feel is right to do then do it. If you do decide to do it don't expect to get a reply or have things go the way you want them to which I think is what happens most of the time when people lay themselves out there by doing nice stuff like that...people expect things to happen this way and when they dont they get super upset and well, that sucks.

 

I just dont want to see you hurt more bro so please, do whatever you feel you can take emotionally and not "care" so much about the outcome.

[theone44]

Originally posted by WantanS4

Do you guys think I should send her a card?? Or clall her on christmas day?

 

My mom thinks I hsould call her now... and htat if I really love her, insist she make an effort to work things out. I don't know.... I don't think it'll make much difference.

 

hmmmm what do you guys think?

 

 

I give up. do what u feel right,but why award someone for their bad behavior

[Weird]

What the ***** is wrong with the female species?

 

I see this chick's profile on match.com. It sounds interesting (she seems like a huge introvert and I'm introverted too although not to her degree) and she snuck in her email addresss in it so I email her telling her I was interested in the profile and would like to just chat with her. CHAT being the key word. Do I get a reply? No. Hilarious.

 

Why do women think if a guy just wants to *****ing TALK to them that it means he wants to start humping them and then marry them? It is amazing how huge egos females have. NEWS FLASH!!! SOME GUYS JUST WANNA TALK AS FRIENDS AND DON'T WANT TO HUMP YOU.

 

There is no logical reason for this girl to not even write back and I just find it stupid and funny that she didnt. It wasn't like I hit on her, not like there was anything that said I wanted to go and start mounting her and depositing my seed in her. Hell, wasnt like her profile was super appealing to general guys because she went on about stuff I think would push guys away. Wasn't like she was all that attractive either. She simply was someone I thought could be nice to talk to but I guess I'm wrong and she is a moron with some messed up ego.

 

Just is amazing how fuggin retarded people can be and it is no wonder why I hate humans. The more I try to warm up to people, the more they do stupid sheete that pisses me off and makes me hate them more.

 

I really don't care about not actually talking to this girl...it is the PRINCIPALITY of the whole thing that pisses me off. I find it rude and stupid. ANYONE could email me and say they want to chat with me and I would at least give it a shot to see if they are good people or not. Sheesh. Then again, I don't automatically think people who want to talk to me are trying to hump me because I realize there is this thing called friendship in this *****ing life.

 

But hey...that chick's loss to not talk to me and anyone else's loss who thinks they are too good to talk to me. The best is I know (and I'm not being cocky here) I'm a friggin GREAT person (intelligent, funny,etc..you name the good qualties and I got them) and anyone would be lucky to have me as their friend since there hasnt really been one person throughout my life who truly got to know me and didn't like me. So funny.

 

People are basically idiots...exlcuding you guys and my family/friends of course:)

 

Done my venting

[theone44]

Originally posted by Weird

What the ***** is wrong with the female species?

 

I see this chick's profile on match.com. It sounds interesting (she seems like a huge introvert and I'm introverted too although not to her degree) and she snuck in her email addresss in it so I email her telling her I was interested in the profile and would like to just chat with her. CHAT being the key word. Do I get a reply? No. Hilarious.

 

Why do women think if a guy just wants to *****ing TALK to them that it means he wants to start humping them and then marry them? It is amazing how huge egos females have. NEWS FLASH!!! SOME GUYS JUST WANNA TALK AS FRIENDS AND DON'T WANT TO HUMP YOU.

 

There is no logical reason for this girl to not even write back and I just find it stupid and funny that she didnt. It wasn't like I hit on her, not like there was anything that said I wanted to go and start mounting her and depositing my seed in her. Hell, wasnt like her profile was super appealing to general guys because she went on about stuff I think would push guys away. Wasn't like she was all that attractive either. She simply was someone I thought could be nice to talk to but I guess I'm wrong and she is a moron with some messed up ego.

 

Just is amazing how fuggin retarded people can be and it is no wonder why I hate humans. The more I try to warm up to people, the more they do stupid sheete that pisses me off and makes me hate them more.

 

I really don't care about not actually talking to this girl...it is the PRINCIPALITY of the whole thing that pisses me off. I find it rude and stupid. ANYONE could email me and say they want to chat with me and I would at least give it a shot to see if they are good people or not. Sheesh. Then again, I don't automatically think people who want to talk to me are trying to hump me because I realize there is this thing called friendship in this *****ing life.

 

But hey...that chick's loss to not talk to me and anyone else's loss who thinks they are too good to talk to me. The best is I know (and I'm not being cocky here) I'm a friggin GREAT person (intelligent, funny,etc..you name the good qualties and I got them) and anyone would be lucky to have me as their friend since there hasnt really been one person throughout my life who truly got to know me and didn't like me. So funny.

 

People are basically idiots...exlcuding you guys and my family/friends of course:)

 

Done my venting

 

 

Did she see a photo of you. weird

[Weird]

I dunno, she could have if she peeped the quickie profile i whipped up on that site. Even if she did and for some odd reason thought I was the ugliest mofo on the planet it still should not matter when a person wants to talk to you over the INTERNET in a friendly way which again is all I made mention of to her.

 

I think her age was 22. I should know by now not to even waste 3 seconds of my time trying to communicate with early 20s women, especially ones who don't even have friggin jobs. They're all messed up.

[Sukotto]

Well time for my weekly update.

 

Heather hasn't responded to any contact since Monday and it was just a single text message. My friend seems to understand from his girlfriend that she doesn't feel the same way about me? Now I'm like wtf, we'd just been hanging out and that was all. I hadn't even tried to make any moves on her. To be honest I'm not even bothered, I just wish she'd have the common decency to tell me that she doesn't see anything happening.

 

Lynsey, well she's been pretty quiet too. We were chatting over the weekend and up to about tuesday, and then I was in London on wednesday and thursday. I sent her a text message on Wednesday to tell her I got there and it took her until Friday afternoon to reply. I mean 2 days? I hadn't make any suggestions to meet up in the hope that she would suggest it. So tonight I decided just to see if she wanted to go out tomorrow. I got a reply saying that she wanted to start work on an essay tomorrow since she was working all next week. So i suggested tomorrow night and she said maybe.

So has she maybe had second thoughts about us dating again? For all i know she should have been waiting for me to make the first move but I'm not too sure now. I for one have started to feel silly for even thinking that we could have another chance. Should I just consider asking her how she really feels and see where that gets or should I tell her how I feel and see what the reaction gets?

 

Any input is appreciated about either girl. Though I think the case of Heather is closed.

[Weird]

Hmm...

 

Stuff with Heather sounds odd. Maybe she was waiting for you tomake a move and since you didn't she jus gave up. Who knows with women. All I know is that it is her problem if she is thinking that way.

 

As for Lynsey, she may jus be really busy right now and more focused on that than stuff with you so that si why she is sorta givign you a cold shoulder. I say you wait it out for a week and if she is still the same then you confront her and see what she is feeling.

 

Patience bro:)

[Sukotto]

I do know she has been busy, she works in a florists and they're always busy at Christmas with people ordering various table decorations, christmas trees and they also sell fruit and vegetables. She was working from 9-5 today which she doesn't usually do. I guess i'll wait until she gets back to me about tomorrow night and will refrain from mentioning anything about it tomorrow night when we go out.

 

Well I'm actually tempted to phone Heather and just give her a piece of my mind, though there is a little bit inside me thats thankful as it makes the whole situtation with my ex that much easier.

 

I guess I should just do some work tonight and continue looking about for apartments to pass the time.

[Weird]

yeah dont waste the time calling heather. If she doesnt want to show you any respect by replying to you then to hell with her.