sharmen Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 Hi Everyone I find myself 8 weeks pregnant to my boyfriend of 8 years. We have children from other marriages but none ourselves. I have asked for marriage and children for many years and he promises me that one day he will marry me and he would "consider" children. So far we have been together 8 years and still no engagement ring and now when i told him i was pregnant he said either get an abortion or i will leave you. He says i am unreasonable and a selfish b:@#@ for wanting a child. He said we shouldn't bring a child into our "unstable" relationship..i live with him we live as a family and im not sure how to take all this. I have begged him to please keep the baby as i want a family with him but he is adamant and i believe him that he will leave me if i continue the pregnancy. I feel so empty and lonely now like im not sure who he is despite what he tells me in words his actions are not really matching up. I have raised 2 children on my own and they are now 13 and 10 and i dont want to raise another child on my own im so torn please any advice would be so appreciated. Thankyou
DaisyLeigh1967 Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 I get so irritated and pissed when I hear of guys doing this type of thing. I mean, he was not FORCED to have sex with you. When you agree to lay down, you are agreeing to the possibility of a pregnancy. IMHO, you have no right to complain and whine after the fact. If he doesn't want any more kids, he should have a vasectomy. I would dump him like a bad habit. He has made it clear that he doesn't want a child with you. He is stringing you along with promises and hopes and unicorn glitter and rainbows, Honey. If you don't wish to abort, then you will be a single mother. I say, if you want the baby, leave him now, and raise your child. Then, be more selective of the men that you get involved with. This guy does not care about you. From what I see, he is getting the milk for free and you are falling for his bull****. Even if you decide to abort, please please think really hard about staying with such a douchecanoe. 3
TigerCub Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 I get so irritated and pissed when I hear of guys doing this type of thing. I mean, he was not FORCED to have sex with you. When you agree to lay down, you are agreeing to the possibility of a pregnancy. IMHO, you have no right to complain and whine after the fact. If he doesn't want any more kids, he should have a vasectomy. I would dump him like a bad habit. He has made it clear that he doesn't want a child with you. He is stringing you along with promises and hopes and unicorn glitter and rainbows, Honey. If you don't wish to abort, then you will be a single mother. I say, if you want the baby, leave him now, and raise your child. Then, be more selective of the men that you get involved with. This guy does not care about you. From what I see, he is getting the milk for free and you are falling for his bull****. Even if you decide to abort, please please think really hard about staying with such a douchecanoe. Exactly! op, this guy doesn't care about you and has never intended on having a serious future with you. He's been stringing you along and just killing time with you. If you want the baby, keep it and leave the jackass. If you don't want to raise another kid on your own, figure some other way out, but still leave the jackass. How could possibly want to be with someone that strings you along, doesn't own up to their part of making that baby, and even calls you a bitch?! Ugh! That "man" is disgusting. 1
Mr. Lucky Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 i live with him we live as a family and im not sure how to take all this. How could you not be sure ? He has clearly revealed both his selfish nature and his degree of attachment to you. If you want the baby, keep it and leave the jackass. If you don't want to raise another kid on your own, figure some other way out, but still leave the jackass. I'd vote for the first option... Mr. Lucky
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