TranslucentThoughts Posted November 3, 2004 Posted November 3, 2004 My boyfriend broke up with me about a week before thanksgiving. He said he wasn't "in" love with me anymore but that he still loves me.. and this came out of nowhere to me. I mean... yes, he had been acting really weird for about a week... but I didn't think that was why. I don't know... the whole break up was... confusing to me. But whatever... I accepted his reason... I mean.. I couldn't say anything to change his mind at that point. But, he seemed really unsure when he broke up with me. I was the one who had to come out and ask him if he wanted to. And he kept saying he didn't know... and then finally he gave me that reason. Ok... so... fine. But, it's been a couple weeks now...and I'm still horribly heartbroken... I'm still so in love with him... and I still want him back...but it's so, so hard. He's acting really weird. Like... he doesn't feel I'm worth his time anymore. I thought we could be friends, you know? at least try... but he acts as if I never meant anything to him at all. I sent him an email the other week asking him if he wanted to come over and help me paint my room and just hang out as friends. He didn't even reply and he didn't give me any answer at school. He just ignored the question completely. Why would he do that? Does he hate me? I don't understand how he could have gone from being so in love with me and wanting to be with me forever... to... just not being in love anymore... and treating me like i'm now absolutely nothing to him. It's so awful. I can't stand the way he treats me... it just adds more hurt to the pain i'm already still feeling. He was the one who ended it... why can't he be mature about his decision? What is going on with him!? Please help. =(
SadAndLonely Posted November 3, 2004 Posted November 3, 2004 Maybe he IS being mature about his decision. Maybe he doesn't want to give you false hope by being your friend right now. It's extremely hard to remain friends when one person still has feelings for the other. Maybe he wants some time alone to reflect on the breakup. I don't understand why people think their exes owe them anything. Maybe he's hurting over the breakup too and just wants to be alone. If you truly love him, give him his space. If he comes around, great! If he doesn't, then respect that. I know it hurts, and I know it sucks really bad, but if you want him to be mature, then you have to be mature, too.
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