matt29 Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 Hi Everyone! It's my ex's birthday tomorrow, she left me three months ago. We were engaged and had been together for 7 years (gigs) since then we've had little contact. It was my birthday last week and she sent me a text to say happy birthday. I'm trying to move on with my life and put her in the past. I don't know if I should contact her to wish her a happy birthday or if I should ignore it? Fact is she is no longer a part of my life and I don't think remaining friends (like she wants to) is a good idea. Should I ignore her birthday? Opinions would be appreciated!
cavalier99 Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 (edited) Nope. Dont send her anything. Do it next year if you want. Bad idea right now. And definitly dont feel guilty just because she sent you one. me ex sent me a Happy Bday super nice email 3 months after my BU. I didnt even respond and it messed me up set me back like a month. Now that im recovered and we are both in new RS we chat amicably every now and then. there wont be any hard feelings later if that is what you are concerned about. your recovery is number one priority right now and a text wont help you. any contact even a text just brings her into the present. She needs to drift off into the past like some sorta dream. That is the beauty of PURE NC. Even a simple text gives your mind new things to chew on and mull over and are more dangerous that you might imagine to your recovery. Cav Edited August 7, 2013 by cavalier99 1
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