lostgirl1 Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 hi, i need help as I'm very confused and feel really lost and cant seem to find any solutions and hope someone can help me. i went on a dating site and i met someone, we hooked up pretty much straight away but for the six months it was such a roller-coaster ride. when we did break up i was told that he came out of a engagement and that he had no feelings for me that way but more on a friendship (best). it was so hard for me to accept as i did everything possible to make it work, i did the no contact rule and he contact me and i was like we get on and i have feelings and don't want to lose him in my life so i agreed .. we were close and even though not a couple we did couple stuff. around Xmas we agreed that no more physical contact but remain friends, things were going well and then he started contact with a girl and push me aside. i did talk to him about it and he made it like it was in my head this caused us to fight.. he kept his distance for a month with no explanation and i had to deal with it. he then came back and i took him back as i missed him and our friendship.. but everytime he gets attention elsewhere the same pattern. about a month ago i moved in with him as flatmates as i was being evicted and we had boundaries placed and all was good.. he started talking to a girl and i must admit i was jealous but tried not to show.. that didn't last as he said he felt bad hurting me , so life at home was good again now he is talking to another girl ( this is the second in two months) and he has started again with the mood swings .. he told me what i found hurtfully that he didn't have those feelings for me and wouldn't as I'm only his best friend and to him that's more important than a relationship and losing all contact for good but he felt he was ready to move on and get married but he felt i was stopping him as he doesn't want to hurt me. i must admit i did break down in tears and if honest i do have feelings of jealousy where there is another but he now starts mentioning maybe i should move out as he feels crowded me being there and has no privacy. my question is. do i move out and stop all contact or do i just let it ride as i don't believe this will last as he loses interest quickly. the things is we tell each other we love each as we do and would do anything and protective and yet he turns mean and i get all lost and confused. i want honest thoughts and prefer if I'm not attacked..
MrRightNow Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 My advice is to go no contact with him. If he doesn't see you that way by now, he probably never will. And even if you somehow end up in a relationship with him, he would obviously just be settling. Find someone who sees the good in you, a guy who can't imagine being with anyone else but you.
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