natwilliams Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 I have been seeing a girl I met online for a few months. It's been very sporadic and lukewarm though. Last month or two she's become super cranky and insecure. She doesn't really want to talk about our lives much, and seems to just want to hook up. She's always lackluster, tired, and boring. Tonight we had a little spat and I told her to go home, albeit peacefully not angrily. I said "this just isn't fun for me anymore". Question is... does this count as a break up? Do I have to like call her to make it official? Or is it implied by the argument and the way I ended the night. Am I supposed to communicate stuff like "let's stay friends" or "it was a nice experience" or any of that crap? It was my first "time" and I never told her. Should I worry about that?
MrCastle Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 If she just wants to hook up then it's not that serious, conceivably you could just walk away but, ehhh--if this thing has been going on for a few months, the least you can do is tell her over the phone. Not text, phone call. You owe her at least that much. This is what I would say: "I just feel like, we're too different to keep this thing going. I think we're both looking for different things in this situation. I just wanted you to give you a definite answer so you're not wondering where I stand. I felt you deserved to know." Something along those lines. You don't have to tell her she was your first time if you don't want to.
Leigh 87 Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 Just don't call or text her again after this, besides ONE courtesy text: " Hey. You're a nice girl, but I can't see us lasting long term. We are not right for each other. I wish you well, but I think it is better that we no longer communicate, albeit perhaps in the distant future if we cross paths again, we can be friends." I think it is polite to send a courtesy text or, better yet, make a phone call. Just to reiterate it is, in fact over. Just in case she has not gotten the message yet. Which I can assure you, by looking in the dating section, it will become apparent that some women are clueless when it comes to reading signals from guys. Heck, I have been one of them at times! A blatant " this is not working out for me" is seriously not enough for some women to accept as a legitimate break up. The dude not calling them and ignoring the girls texts for two weeks, only to cave and reply to one of her texts agreeing to meet up, only to have sex and then go back to ignoring her............... Some women come on here and "wonder" if there is any chance the guy likes them:lmao: Sorry to make a mockery of it, I have honestly been there, but seriously: text or call her and make it CLEAR that it is over. Cos you never know. Just sayin'
unexpectedlyhere Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 There is a new app that helps you compose breakup texts. I can't conceivably think of who would use it other than prankster, but then that's what the two people above have done
Schoe Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 You should text her or call her, it needs to be wrapped up unequivocally. Be honest too, tell her what you've told us
Jasper123 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 You should text her or call her, it needs to be wrapped up unequivocally. Be honest too, tell her what you've told us Agree with this, has to be closure, dont let it fester, not fair on either of you. 25 Inspirational Love Quotes That Will Change Your Perspective | LifeDaily
Virgil876 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 No, and if that line is a breakup line then it is the most unclear and vague line I've heard. Be clear, otherwise it doesn't count.
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