mercedeschick Posted November 2, 2004 Posted November 2, 2004 I recently had a fight (drunken, nonetheless) with my current boyfriend. I said pretty hurtful things, and I realized how drunk and stupid I was when i said them. I apologized to him several times, and he feels the need we should take a dating break, and start rebuilding our friendship again to see if we can carry on with our relationship. I agreed with him, because there is a huge gap in friendship between us when we first met to now. He said he doesn't feel right if we move on like nothing has happened...to which I see his point in the matter. He feels that relationships shouldn't be based on problems, to which I agree with as well. I'd like to think this is the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with. I'm just used to spending A LOT of time with him and am afraid if we start back at square one, things won't work out. I know, I know, I need to take one day and step at a time...but I still have these recurring worries. I do truly love and care about him, and the same goes for him. Then again, I feel like the stubborn one and he is the realist. HELP!!!
bluechocolate Posted November 3, 2004 Posted November 3, 2004 You said some nasty things to him when you were drunk & even though you were drunk & have apologised many times the hurt he's experiencing is that there was probably some truth in what you said to him. He needs to to process that, so if you want to remain with this guy you're just going to have to play it his way for the time being. He feels that relationships shouldn't be based on problems, to which I agree with as well. I'd like to think this is the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with. He wants some time to reconnect with you on a different level. It's important that partners are also the best of friends. Maybe he's thinking "if a friend said those things to me I would be seriously reconsidering my friendship. Why would I put up with that from my supposed life-time partner & best friend?". You're going to have to prove to him that you are worth it to him to consider you as a life time partner and if you're sincere & he believes it, your relationship will survive & be stronger.
Author mercedeschick Posted November 3, 2004 Author Posted November 3, 2004 Thank you for the advice...things are getting better; one day at a time!
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