Is he truly over me? I still love him even if he thought I didn't anymore.

[worldexploded]

It's been almost three months since my ex and I ended it. He finally posted something on his tumblr stating how he felt about it. Before I get in to it let me give my side.

 

I had been struggling with how to find the money to return to school, didn't have my license at the time and was working crappy retail jobs. I wanted to make things better but he just told me he couldn't wait on me anymore.

 

I felt like he was expecting too much from me even though I cared about making him happy and doing more for myself.

 

He also sucked at speaking his mind I feel like a lot of our issues could have been avoided id he actually talked to me instead of insisting we text it.

 

I never understood why his family didn't like me I tried my best to be gracious and polite.

 

When we broke up I didn't say much I just said whatever left. I didn't show much emotion. I thought I did the right thing.

 

I haven't talked to him since the day we broke up.

 

Here are excerpts of what he said:

 

At the start of this summer I broke up with the women I had been dating for a year (and one month). It hurt to do it especially to a women I cared for, still had feelings for, and only wished the best for. In my mind she was stuck in a place where I could not help and may have been holding her back.

 

Me and my ex had a dream of us getting married, having kids (or possibly not), and stuff like that. My ex had not finished college like she originally planed when we first meet. She also did not have her drivers licenses and was moving from job to job due to them cutting hours.

 

What I have taken from looking at her Facebook, a while back, is that after our breakup she has received her drivers license, works at good job, and is in the air force reserve.

 

I have to say I am happy for her and wish her the best on her future plans.

 

We had a lot of problems at the end. I became tired of contributing the majority of the relationship,and becoming a tool of labor not to her but to her family. I also knew our families were different and we were raised different, but there were always issues between our families.

 

Eventually I came over on a Sunday and she handed me my stuff (Plus some gifts I gave to her which I guess were not as good as the dresses I gave to her) and we parted our ways.

 

I drove home tearful because the women I loved a few days earlier became a raging, cold heartless bitch that showed no emotion. I listened to “Somebody I Use To Know" and “Sweet Nothing".

 

Weeks later after hanging out with friends, neighbors, and anyone that was fun; I found out that most the people I knew did not care for my ex.

 

This hurt more because

 

1. It means that most people Lied to me about her

 

2.They did not understand how shy she was

 

3. they may have been just saying that to make me feel better when in fact… it did not.

 

I hope my ex does well in life, there is always a little place in my heart for her, and I hope she finds a great man that will take care of her.

 

 

By the way I'm 21 and he's 20

Edited August 7, 2013 by worldexploded

[Booklover79]

Sounds like he has an issue with your family differences and where you are in your life. It sounds like he still likes you, maybe you can try and reconnect with him and see where it goes.

[Virgil876]

Sounds fairly good, I think he is quite neutral there.

[worldexploded]

Yeah, I think so too. I'm just trying to figure out where to go from here.

[worldexploded]

I sent him a message and he responded well to it. Problem is I told him i agreed with the break up. I think I messed up my chances because I would like to get back to gether in the future. I don't know what to do.