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The most obnoxious things YOU have ever done to an ex.

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Maleficent Established Member

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Haaaaaa let's twist this around!

 

I'm sure all our exes have complaints about us and no one is perfect - let's all man up to our stupid behaviors too!

I will start.

 

I used to complain that my ex was never taking me anywhere (which was true. We always ended up watching TV at home)

 

One Friday night I come home from work at 9 (was a hairstylist then - worked Saturday morning) and he said his co-workers were throwing him a party because he was leaving.

I got pissy and told him I didn't want to go because I was working the next day. This turned into our worst fight ever.

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iris219 Established Member

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I complained to my ex because we weren't facebook friends so he sent me a friend request.

 

I refused to accept it. :laugh:

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Treasa Established Member

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Oh God, where to start... I could be typing all night.

 

I used to ask boyfriends incessantly if they still wanted to be with me if they pulled away a little, or I would ask if they wanted someone else.

 

I would cling way too tightly.

 

I don't think I have an actual story that stands out. It was mostly just a lot of clinging, needing constant reassurance, not respecting their need for space and time, and easily getting jealous. I drove them insane. Poor things.

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Treasa Established Member

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Oh!! With a couple of boyfriends I actually DID sort of accuse them of wanting other women. And looking back, my behavior was shameful but laughable. I'm so glad I got past all that.

 

I'd also act passive aggressive and hang up on them and then get pissed if they didn't call me back. Wow...Bad Traci!

MrTurk Established Member

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I'm a bit different...my emotions do not rise and fall quickly like most. I cant really say that I've ever done anything to purposely be obnoxious towards a person I was dating.

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CherryT Established Member

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Oh man. Where do I start? I can be very insensitive at times. I'm very self sufficient (financially, emotionally etc) and I treat most things like a business transaction. I use to take a lot of the emotions (well how would they feel etc) out of the situation and pin point certain things that went wrong. At times my ex felt I was belittling. I don't think my points were invalid... there were a lot of things wrong with our relationship - we were DEFINITELY NOT meant for one another. But the way I would go about it wasn't the best.

 

After our relationship ended I realized there was a lot of things that were wrong on both sides. He always acted like a victim when he would do things that were shady. I'd call him out on it but for some reason still wanted to work things through. Needless to say, I've learned that toxic relationships do bring out the worse in you and those are relationships not worth keeping.

 

I've worked on how I react to things and haven't had this particular problem since. I also always admit when I'm wrong with my SO.

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man_in_the_box Established Member

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- Watched porn for 2 years behind her back because I didn't have the guts to bring it up.

- drank too much one time and behaved like a complete ******* towards her.

TaraMaiden Established Member

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I'm a bit different...my emotions do not rise and fall quickly like most. I cant really say that I've ever done anything to purposely be obnoxious towards a person I was dating.

 

 

^^This^^.

 

I don't see the point in being deliberately hurtful and obnoxious simply to goad the ex.

 

But I'm getting some good ideas for any possible future reference, here.....

 

:D

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Maleficent Established Member

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^^This^^.

 

I don't see the point in being deliberately hurtful and obnoxious simply to goad the ex.

 

But I'm getting some good ideas for any possible future reference, here.....

 

:D

 

Well it's not deliberately. some people have emotions and quirks and some stuff happens that we can't controlled.

It has nothing to do with having the intention to hurt someone.

I'm sure any of your exes would be able to come up with at least one thing you said or did that was obnoxious to them.

 

Whether or not you recognize it - well that's your perogative I guess lol

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TaraMaiden Established Member

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Actually - no, I honestly don't think they could.

 

They may have TAKEN something as being hurtful, and been upset by something I said or did - but I never did anything deliberate or wilful with the express aim of having a bun-fight, pissing them off or just rubbing them up the wrong way.

TaraMaiden Established Member

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Well it's not deliberately. some people have emotions and quirks and some stuff happens that we can't controlled.

It has nothing to do with having the intention to hurt someone.

I'm sure any of your exes would be able to come up with at least one thing you said or did that was obnoxious to them.

Whether or not you recognize it - well that's your perogative I guess lol

 

to add:

the thread title is:

 

The most obnoxious things YOU have ever done to an ex."

 

I presumed this was from our perspective and from our PoV or judgement.

The bolded part above seems to alter that perspective.

As I stated.

I never did anything of that ilk, but of course their poV may be at variance.

 

But I didn't think that's what the thread was asking, originally.

Southern Cal Dude Established Member

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I was 18. Girl dumped me, I spread a rumor she participated in numerous gang bangs, some with black guys. In my defense, she treated me like crap. Her rep was destroyed in an instant.

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sillyanswer Established Member

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I continued having sex with her. :o

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Emilia Established Member

Emilia

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Divorcing him.

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amaysngrace Established Member

amaysngrace

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Yeah divorcing him was the ultimate F you.

 

And getting sole custody so that he could have zero influence on how our children are raised is the other.

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TaraMaiden Established Member

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Originally Posted by Southern Cal Dude

I was 18. Girl dumped me, I spread a rumor she participated in numerous gang bangs, some with black guys. In my defense, she treated me like crap. Her rep was destroyed in an instant.

That's not obnoxious, it's slanderous bigotry and you should be extremely ashamed of yourself.
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Southern Cal Dude Established Member

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That's not obnoxious, it's slanderous bigotry and you should be extremely ashamed of yourself.

 

 

Yes, I hang my head in shame everyday thinking about it.

Radu Established Member

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I was very clingy and i blew things out of proportion, pretty much many social interactions.

I'm sure i wasn't the most pleasant individual to be with.

 

 

That's not obnoxious, it's slanderous bigotry and you should be extremely ashamed of yourself.

 

Technically i agree with you, though morally i cannot.

Especially since i was on the receiving end of it from some of the women i've dated ... as sad as it may sound, what he did put a smile on my face and a thought of 'i wish i had done that' did cross my mind.

TaraMaiden Established Member

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Technically i agree with you, though morally i cannot.

Especially since i was on the receiving end of it from some of the women i've dated ... as sad as it may sound, what he did put a smile on my face and a thought of 'i wish i had done that' did cross my mind.

 

Morally it was extremely low and very, very wrong.

Morally, he had no right to spread the rumours that she was a slut.

And what did a guy's colour have to do with it, anyway?

he's implying that having sex with a black guy is beneath social morality.

 

That is truly despicable.

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Maleficent Established Member

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to add:

the thread title is:

 

The most obnoxious things YOU have ever done to an ex."

 

I presumed this was from our perspective and from our PoV or judgement.

The bolded part above seems to alter that perspective.

As I stated.

I never did anything of that ilk, but of course their poV may be at variance.

 

But I didn't think that's what the thread was asking, originally.

 

Again, I don't necessarily mean it's something that was done on purpose. But hey! If you feel your interactions with people are perfect - more power to you.

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Maleficent Established Member

Maleficent

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Morally it was extremely low and very, very wrong.

Morally, he had no right to spread the rumours that she was a slut.

And what did a guy's colour have to do with it, anyway?

he's implying that having sex with a black guy is beneath social morality.

 

That is truly despicable.

 

Serioulsy, you don't get to post here how you've treated everyone in your life perfectly and then judge us for admitting to the stupid things we've done.

 

This isn't what this thread is for. Either fess up, or go away.

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mercuryshadow Established Member

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I posted on his facebook business page of his cheating, lying, dishonest ways... vindictive, I know, but I was hurting after he cheated on me for the third time. He pleaded with me to remove it, and so I did. And I left him for good.

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GI_Joy Established Member

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My college ex--I found his craigslist personals ad looking for cougars and messaged it to his current girlfriend that he left me for. Because I'm vindictive like that :p

 

My most recent ex, I sent him a picture of a dead cat fetus from anatomy lab (He LOVES cats) from a different number, just for the hell of it.

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Keenly Established Member

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The only thing that I have ever done that I can remember that was intentionally awful ( I found it hilarious) was that my ex had OCD about germs, and she loved to make food.

 

my FAVORITE thing to do, and it still makes me smile thinking about it, is I would wait for her to wash her hands, dry them, and then I would run up and grab them, and run away.

 

 

 

She HAD to wash her hands again. I did this like four times in a row, always playfully.

Phoe Established Member

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can't think of any ONE story of me just being ridiculously obnoxious, but one ex did tell me that when I was PMSing I was a bit grumpier than he liked.

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