Oysters Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 I broke up with my ex around 1/2 year ago because of him being too busy. He agreed to the breakup because he knew he probably can't make enough time for me. We did have our little problems, because he thinks that I act quite immature and he felt that he is more like a mentor/brother than a boyfriend. This is another reason that led to our break up. After the breakup, he still send me a text or two every other few weeks, and that went on for a couple of months. I didn't know why..and I don't know if he wanted me back, since he never really said it. But his actions showed me he did want me back. Well, we tried. We hung out. Things felt different. It was awkward and stiff, and I knew he wasn't acting like himself, and neither was I. I know that he is a busy guy (engineering graduate student w/ labs under his belt), BUT he seems to be busy 24/7. I'm not pissed or anything, and I am very understanding, since I have no right to make him make time for me. I am not his gf anymore. I am just wondering what had happened? He showed that he wanted me back, but he never really ASKED....which is a bit misleading. I think he might be nervous, but now I am thinking that he gave up trying because our chemistry seemed to be gone. If I am important to him, he would have had the time right? Engineers out there, are you ever truly that busy? He can't take a day off, only like 4 hours. =( And yes, he does hang out with his buddies, but very very little.
Misfortune Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 I broke up with my ex around 1/2 year ago because of him being too busy. He agreed to the breakup because he knew he probably can't make enough time for me. We did have our little problems, because he thinks that I act quite immature and he felt that he is more like a mentor/brother than a boyfriend. This is another reason that led to our break up. After the breakup, he still send me a text or two every other few weeks, and that went on for a couple of months. I didn't know why..and I don't know if he wanted me back, since he never really said it. But his actions showed me he did want me back. Well, we tried. We hung out. Things felt different. It was awkward and stiff, and I knew he wasn't acting like himself, and neither was I. I know that he is a busy guy (engineering graduate student w/ labs under his belt), BUT he seems to be busy 24/7. I'm not pissed or anything, and I am very understanding, since I have no right to make him make time for me. I am not his gf anymore. I am just wondering what had happened? He showed that he wanted me back, but he never really ASKED....which is a bit misleading. I think he might be nervous, but now I am thinking that he gave up trying because our chemistry seemed to be gone. If I am important to him, he would have had the time right? Engineers out there, are you ever truly that busy? He can't take a day off, only like 4 hours. =( And yes, he does hang out with his buddies, but very very little. He's making excuses. If you want something, you make time for it. My ex was also always busy with an always dying phone whenever I tried to contact her.
GG3 Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 Ugh were you dating my ex? Your story sounds just like mine a year ago. I'm an engineer and so was he...older and going back to school. Not all engineers are busy like that. Those classes do really overload you with work, but I really think it's more of a personality thing too. Some people have to keep busy 24/7 and make it like their activities are life saving events and the world revolves around them. I finally decided that I want a more balanced person in my life who values relaxing sometimes and making people a priority.
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