gill17 Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Hey guys... I'm new to this site but would appreciate your advice towards my situation I've recently split up with my ex...we were together for 4 month and had some great times together. She pursued me from the beginning, always asking me to see her, she seemed really keen. However, the trust issues from me towards her began to creep in after a friend told me she had heard she had kissed someone else on a night out. The arguments and blow-ups, from both sides, also became evident, and it seemed to have a knock on affect to our relationship. She started to become more distant with me, not wanting to see me as much, starting to go out again all the time, and just generally felt like she wasn't involved as much in the relationship. I started to feel really unhappy, but because I liked the girl, I always kept it to myself, in fear she would thing I was nagging her...it did get to the point where I confronted her, and she hesitated when I asked her if she wanted to be with me..we did sort it..but for the following weeks, the arguments remained and we were on the verge of splitting up, but again, saw it out. I went away for a week, and came back to rumors that she had cheated on me...this, on top of everything else was the final straw, and I ended the relationship. She asked to see me the following night, so I went to see her and I could genuinely tell she was upset..she continued to text me for a few days, and I offered to go see her...however, when I got to her house, her entire attitude towards me had changed...she became aloof and off with me, being quite harsh, telling me "there was plenty more fish in the sea"...and that was the last I heard from her...it's only been 3 weeks since the split and she's already seeing someone else. I seen her on a night out since, but we didn't speak, or even acknowledge each other, however, other people have told me she spent a lot of time looking over towards where I was, to see what I was doing. As much as I was unhappy, I do genuinely still care for her, and I guess part of wanted her to fight for me, and show me how much she cared for me aswell when we broke up. Do you think it's possible that she still likes me? I'm really struggling with her change in attitude towards me...can anyone explain why this may have been? Maybe a pride thing?
Sneaky Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 I'm sorry but it does not sound like you should fight. If you're certain she cheated on you than she's really not worth it in the first place.
IthurtsBothways Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 Sorry to hear that you have gone through this. A break up is hard however one involving a possible cheat makes it even worse. I would say this to you and some others may or may not agree. If you want her go get her. Let her know how you feel and let her know that you are willing to forgive her if she has learned from her mistake and will hold your relationship exclusive. If she agrees then you must also be strong enough to endure the test without bringing the matter up again. During the discussion find out what made her go astray. This may hurt or anger you but use it to make your final opinion of her. We can all be less than perfect at times and become weak in situations especially where there is already undesirable situations in a relationship, fights, nags, spite. These things cause doubt about the future of the relationship to both partners. At the end of the day, its what you want. If its her find out if it can be.
LostInTheWild Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 You didn't mention anything about love in your post. Move on while it's still a "like." You will only cause yourself more pain if she ever does want to get back together with you.
itto ogami Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 My friend - she should be fighting for you. She's disrespected you and the more you try to win her the more she'll slip away and worse, have more disrespect for putting up with her ****. TRUST and RESPECT. Without these two in tandem you don't have a healthy relationship. Show her you're ALPHA and go into NO CONTACT.
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