stevesheels Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 I have been attracted to a woman at the gym where I workout at for while now and finally worked up the courage to strike up a conversation with her which I had with her in the gym last week. I approached her when she was in between sets doing some ab crunches and we had a good conversation where I was able to flirt a bit and got good interest signals from her back. One of the things she did the first time I approached her was she took off her headphones and she also laughed at the flirty jokes I made. At the end of the chat, I honestly felt that she would have given me her # if I asked for it but the reason I didn't ask for her # was becasue I knew I'd see her again in the gym and thought it would be better for me to take my time and try to build a bit more comfort and anticipation by seeing her and chatting with her a few more times in the gym before I asked for the #. I've always preferred waiting a while before asking for a # but in this case maybe not asking the first time was what made her lose interest. Anways fast forward to yesterday. I saw her again for the first time since the first conversation we had a week prior and before I approached her I was expecting her to be at least as friendly as she was the the first time we talked. This time she was on the treadmill but walking and listening to headphones. I touched her on the hand to get her attention, she turned to me and gave me a big smile but then turned right back forward again without saying anything to me. So aside from the smile (which was positive), I pretty much interpreted it as a "brushoff". And then I just left. What confused me about her reaction is that I thought that if she was interested, she would have taken off her headphones to at least say a few words to me so my guess is that sometime in the week that elapsed since our first chat, that she lost interest. What do you think? How should I proceed? Should I try again or just give up and assume she's not interested?
clia Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 This time she was on the treadmill but walking and listening to headphones. I touched her on the hand to get her attention, she turned to me and gave me a big smile but then turned right back forward again without saying anything to me. So aside from the smile (which was positive), I pretty much interpreted it as a "brushoff". And then I just left. I wouldn't necessarily assume she isn't interested, but you interrupted her in the middle of her workout. I think it's a little odd that you thought she would stop her workout, take off her headphones, and engage in conversation with you. I would find that super annoying. At least the last time you approached her in between sets. Next time try approaching her when she isn't right in the middle of a workout. 3
Lansing Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 My feeling is that she isn't interested, and she wasn't interested but she was being friendly before. Now, she wig rod you because she figured a)her working out was a good reason to ignore you and b) if she gave you any more time that you might think she was interested and doesn't want to lead you on. Try to talk to her when she isn't working out if you really want to see... 2
Eddie Edirol Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 I would try to catch her after her workout. I know that if Im on the treadmill, Im in a zone and dont want the flow interrupted. Its hard to WANT to walk or run on a treadmill for an hour. So try her in between workouts, but assume she isnt interested. Remember, you arent the only guy that approaches her. What you really need to remember is if she asked you any questions about you the first time you talked to her. if you did all of the flirting and talking, then I would think she has no interest in you. 1
Treasa Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 Agree with the others. But kudos to you for having the balls to make not one attempt, but two! 1
New User Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 My feeling is that she isn't interested, and she wasn't interested but she was being friendly before. Now, she wig rod you because she figured a)her working out was a good reason to ignore you and b) if she gave you any more time that you might think she was interested and doesn't want to lead you on. Try to talk to her when she isn't working out if you really want to see... What means this? 2
Treasa Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 What means this? Oh, thank God I wasn't the only one wondering. 1
New User Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 Oh, thank God I wasn't the only one wondering. I'm worried after finding out what kino means- it sounds painful.
Lansing Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 What means this? Ha, I think I meant to type "now she ignored you"... Stupid iPad 1
New User Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 Ha, I think I meant to type "now she ignored you"... Stupid iPad Well, that's certainly more benign than the thoughts I was coming up with. Most involved beating him with a rod until his wig came off. 2
Skyraider829 Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 Clia is right. Interrupting her during her jog could be taken as annoying. I think she is interested in you, since she smiled but she just didn't want to be bothered. Nothing to take negatively. Just wait until after she's done with her workout, that would be best.
MrTurk Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 I think she is interested in you, since she smiled I'm sorry, but I have to interject that comment. Women smile all the time. Even when nervous, and in uncomfortable situations. The OP should have stayed at the gym....moved himself to an area away from her, but in her general line of sight....and waited to see if she came over to him, after she was done on the treadmill. 1
Phoe Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 I'm sorry, but I have to interject that comment. Women smile all the time. Even when nervous, and in uncomfortable situations. Indeed. I smile at everyone. It's probably considered creepy 90% of the time haha. 1
MrTurk Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 Indeed. I smile at everyone. It's probably considered creepy 90% of the time haha. Do you do it like this?? .
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