Lauriesheartache Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Its been two weeks...the latest being Nc....although I asked him straight out if he saw himself changing his mind and move in (thats what we broke up about) and said he dose not think he will change his mind. I still can't except its over...Im constantly looking at my phone wishing for him to call and say yes i'll move in. How do I except this and move past it! ?
supaflyz Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 I think this song fits what you are feeling right now. Bonnie Raitt- I can't make you love me. The truth is you can't make him move in or love you. He chose not to move in with you. May I ask how long have you guys been together? Why do you want him to move in with you so bad? If it's a new relationship then you should hold out on that. My brother and his fiance now was with each other for several years before they broke up. He dated another girl, but now he is back with his other gf (the fiance). They have been dating 2 years now after that. They finally are deciding to buy a house to move in together and getting marry next year in Cancun. Most guys are afraid of commitment. I too myself felt a little scared when I was thinking of my future with my ex. Something in my mind just didn't seem right, and I knew it wouldn't work out in the future if we ever think about marriage. We were just 2 totally different people who happen to crossed path. Men have a lot to lose when it comes to commitment. Might lose custody of the children, house, money.
Author Lauriesheartache Posted August 6, 2013 Author Posted August 6, 2013 We have been together three years. I'm 35 he's 42, I have a son he loves to death and our relationship was pretty good. We live an hour apart so it was really wearing on me to only see him 2 days a week. I want to be a family. I think he is scared of the change, I just can't believe he would give up what we have together.
supaflyz Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Ok I understand how you are feeling now. The distance and lack of physical contact is what concerns you. I understand how that could cause arguments. I think he is indeed scare of a commitment. I have heard stories like yours a few time. A friend of mine right now is dating some guy that stays a few hours away. He keeps telling her that he will quit his job and move there with her but have yet to do it. She gets very frustrated and is probably going to break it off as well. I fully understand that you don't want to throw away 3 years with someone whom you are very compatible with. We have been together three years. I'm 35 he's 42, I have a son he loves to death and our relationship was pretty good. We live an hour apart so it was really wearing on me to only see him 2 days a week. I want to be a family. I think he is scared of the change, I just can't believe he would give up what we have together.
Author Lauriesheartache Posted August 6, 2013 Author Posted August 6, 2013 Thanks for your reply. It helps just talking about it
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