jncapital1 Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 I recently has a brief second chance with a girl I absolutely love. It was going great until we got really drunk last week and I spewed the frustration I felt when she dumped me two months ago. We spoke a few days later and she said "I could never love you". Stupid question but anyone ever heard that and ended up with that person, in a healthy relationship?
Simon Phoenix Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 I recently has a brief second chance with a girl I absolutely love. It was going great until we got really drunk last week and I spewed the frustration I felt when she dumped me two months ago. We spoke a few days later and she said "I could never love you". Stupid question but anyone ever heard that and ended up with that person, in a healthy relationship? Who knows, but that's pretty unequivocal. She didn't leave any gray area for interpretation. Take it as truth and move forward. If she wants to take it back, she'll let you know. 2
Author jncapital1 Posted August 7, 2013 Author Posted August 7, 2013 Agreed but couldn't she just really be pissed with what I said that night and tried to hurt me with her words? Since our reconnect, we were getting along great, right up until we went to that darn bar! I plan to just move on but part of me really wants her to come back and thinks she might...
marqueemoon4 Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 Just my personal experience, when women say things like that they usually mean it. Not a hard and fast rule, just what I've seen. I wish you the best.
Author jncapital1 Posted August 8, 2013 Author Posted August 8, 2013 Honestly not an excuse but I was really, really drunk. I don't drink much but we were going to a concert and drank for hours. I remember the topics but not the specifics. I don't think I said anything mean but rather called her out on a few things that had been bothering me. If you recall she stood me up awhile back. Her excuse was that she had worked late that night and we didn't have a firm plan. I showed her the texts from that day, which she didn't seem to like. I also questioned her keeping around these guy friends, who are guys she went out with once or twice, doesn't like them romantically but still spends time with her, all the while they pine away for her. I think my big mistake might have been telling her how much I care for her. I know the time we spent together was special since she told me that all the time and she is the one that came back. I'm letting go but part of me, a big part wants her to come back.
Author jncapital1 Posted August 8, 2013 Author Posted August 8, 2013 And for the record I'm ok if we don't get back together. I do care for her and would prefer to be with her for some strange reason but life will go on.
jesse93 Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 I think in order to go into a new relationship with your ex you have to forget the past, you have to be healed from the past because i think those past actions will always come back and bite you in the ass, going into a relationship with your ex makes you feel insecure in ways you have a wall around your heart because you don't want to be dumped like you were dumped before, so you start to snap I realize you were drunk, but may i ask if these questions and thoughts were in your mind even when you weren't drinking? I think they were and the fact that you got drunk made you confident enough to speak your mind. I think in order to be in a relationship with your ex you have to be on good terms there cant be questions and thoughts lingering in your mind, you have to be willing to accept the past and make a new start and I think you might of tried too early, and when you brought those things up she realized you weren't ready or maybe she was giving you the benefit of the doubt, seeing if she could fall in love with you again, but realized it isn't possible. 1
Author jncapital1 Posted August 8, 2013 Author Posted August 8, 2013 I agree with with almost all you wrote. It was too early. I needed a bit more distance to not be so into her. The things I remember I said were actually pretty true-I just wish I had said them when we were both sober and I would have been less passionate. I know are second chance was going well right up to the drunken episode but I also think the issues might have cropped up again. I am totally letting go of this relationship. Who knows what the future will bring.
jesse93 Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 I agree with with almost all you wrote. It was too early. I needed a bit more distance to not be so into her. The things I remember I said were actually pretty true-I just wish I had said them when we were both sober and I would have been less passionate. I know are second chance was going well right up to the drunken episode but I also think the issues might have cropped up again. I am totally letting go of this relationship. Who knows what the future will bring. Good on you man, best of luck. I think thats the best decision for you now.
Author jncapital1 Posted August 11, 2013 Author Posted August 11, 2013 Can a woman fall out of love with you and then fall in love with you again? My ex-girlfriend and I were starting to date again, things were going well and one night when we both were really drunk (a rare thing) I said some things I regret and the next day she said she could never love me. She used to say how special our relationship was but in our last conversation she said it wasn't. I think she is just hurt and was trying to hurt me in return. I plan to give her plenty of space but wonder is there a chance she'll love me again some day?
sm4284 Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 Getting back with an ex is really difficult in keeping things good between the both of you. Usually most ex's believe that if the other person messes up even once then that is enough proof for them to call it off again. But you might just have to apologize and tell her how you feel about it and give her space. Women handle situations differently than men and I have seen alot of my ex's need space from something that hurt them. That's the best course of action and if she feels like there is no hope in the future then move on.
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