Zahara Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 Man that's what I need to hear. It's so easy to start doubting and perhaps that is the stage I'm in now. What do you recommend if she wants to speak? I'd recommend you cut this one loose. There is nothing to talk about. You communicated to her during the relationship that you were uncomfortable with her speaking to her ex, yet she went ahead and did it, worst of all behind your back. Disrespected and disregarded you and the relationship. You know why she waved you over? To make it seem innocent because she knew she was busted, again. Minimizing the situation in order to subdue you and to relieve her guilt. Otherwise, when you asked her over for dinner, if there was nothing wrong with her seeing her ex, she would have declined by telling you she had plans with him. She hid that fact again. 2
JDPT Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 See that's where my confusion is, because she hasn't tried to contact me after that night. It's been 3 days without anything from her. Her look wasn't surprised and she actually waved at me to come over. What is that about? Wow that girl has some nerve, tells you the type of person she is and how she utterly disregarded the relationship with you and feelings you had for her. Apply NC immediately for your own sake. You are better off withou her.
lovesucks76 Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 Wow that girl has some nerve, tells you the type of person she is and how she utterly disregarded the relationship with you and feelings you had for her. Apply NC immediately for your own sake. You are better off withou her. How can some people be so cold? It's hard to understand sometimes. I try to forgive and forget but can't think of an excuse for them...really can't!
Chi townD Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 See that's where my confusion is, because she hasn't tried to contact me after that night. It's been 3 days without anything from her. Her look wasn't surprised and she actually waved at me to come over. What is that about? Then forget about her. Start living your life as if she isn't coming back, because chances are she's not. She was probably waving you over to show you that nothing was going on....but, just remember. Your phonecalls went unanswered and your texts did too. Which tells me, she was more interested in her present company rather than talking with you. You were second place that night. Right now, she's probably upset that you're not contacting her. Being pissy and waiting for you to come crawling back to her with an apology. But, sooner or later her guilt is going to eat at her and she'll break down and make contact. See, one thing about girls is that MOST can't stand the fact that there might be one person on this planet that hates them or doesn't think they are a nice person. So, she'll contact you to see where your head is at. Find out if you actually hate her. Ignore it. Make sure you block her on Facebook.
Louise0203 Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 You really do not deserve to be treated in this way. As the saying goes; 'fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me'. She is obviously still emotionally involved with her ex. I know it is hard because she is not texting and calling but imagine if you gave her another shot and it happened again. You seem like a nice person who is willing to try to make things work and she seems more interested in having you when she likes, and meeting up with her ex when she likes. Relationships are about a lot of things but most importantly they are about respect and compromise and from what you have said, she does not want to do either of those.
Schoe Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 based on the fact that if something is pure and innocent, a person would be open about it and not skulk behind your back....she obviously still has feelings for her ex, her actions speak loud enough... she could be using you as a fall back option if she finds that the deal with her ex is really off...... dont be that man, as hard as it is shut the door on this, no contact.
Talulah Posted August 8, 2013 Posted August 8, 2013 That is really messed up. I learned my lesson with exes once. Never again. Why did they break-up?
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