ohiite Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 So me and my Ex dated for like 6 months total... everything was good in the beginning and up till about the fifth month. Everything changed after she graduated college and after a big competition she was in which she didn't place and took really hard. We only saw each other once a week because of a little distance and the fact that she didnt have a car. She never initiated anything we did, i asked to hang out all the time i made the phone calls ect. In those 5 month things were amazing. we would text all the time, when we hung out it was perfect, and physically we couldnt keep our hands off each other. when she came back from her competition she stopped texting a lot, she wouldnt look at me the same, our convos were dry, she hung out with her friends more often and she just seemed like she wasnt into it anymore and she wouldnt say i love you unless i did. There were some days she was completely normal but even then i felt like it was an act. she brought up how distant she became with me and said it wasnt me and that she really does love me but that made me even more skeptical. We ended up speaking about in a couple days later over phone and she told me she doesnt feel a spark anymore, she needs a break to see if she would "miss me," which set me off the cliff and i ended up breaking up with her the next day. After about a week i hit her up telling her i made a mistake and then we should make it work but she says shes over it she doesnt want it anymore. Then about 2 weeks later we meet in person. This time we spoke i let her know i jumped the gun breaking it off and that i still love her and i want her and no one else. she tells me she did all this because shes not ready for a relationship right now, she doesnt know what she wants, and she also said that she wants me but not right now, wtf? that meeting went well overall, i made her laugh and we set off on good terms. two days later i text her, which was my biggest mistake. i asked her whether or not her saying i love you a week prior to our break up if she meant it and she avoided the answer. i kept pushing it and she ended up saying no she doesnt love me. i said she lied to me and led me on.... then she responded with im a kid and i need to grow the **** up. Now its been about a week and i havent spoken to her. she deleted me off all social networks. Some extra info; she is my relative's wife's sister. My question is whether what she says is true or is it that she just doesnt like me anymore for some weird reason. THIS ALL HAPPENED OUT OF NOWHERE!!
Zahara Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 She doesn't have it in her to want a relationship or one with you. That is what she is trying to tell you. Simple.
templeofmax Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 My ex and I had a 2-month weak before the last BU, and I did ask her then if she loved me and she said no (she smiled nervously though) and to forget about her and look for someone else. Of course I took it like you now, but knew it was probably BS. Of course when we came back she said she missed me a lot. So, go NC, don't pay attention to what she says. If she said she loved you before, she may still do, but won't accept it. Maybe she is done 100%, but maybe not, but you pushing her to tell you will hurt you. Dumper's behavior is weird and they won't accept the reality of what they feel. Leave her be for now. 1
Author ohiite Posted August 6, 2013 Author Posted August 6, 2013 i broke up with her... when i went back she said she was depressed for 5 days after i broke up with her and thats what made her realize she doesnt want to be in the relationship. Two weeks before she said she had three wishes one of which was me and her. She said she still cares about me but its not what it was at the beginning of our relationship. I'm going to see her a lot since shes sort of family now. IDK if i should approach her and apologize for being so pushy or just let it be and ignore her
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