Miche789504 Posted November 2, 2004 Posted November 2, 2004 Ok here is my story maybe someone can help....... I met this guy who is alot younger than me. I am 27 he is 20....anyway we started talking to each other which led to us hanging out a couple of times at my house. He confuses me because every time he see's me hes like "oh what are you doing later?" Im like "don't know yet" he says "ok i'll give you a call".....he doesn't call until like 3 days later. On one occasion we did end up hooking up with each other....having sex and he stayed at my place...but since then the same thing has been happening oh ill call you...but he doesnt or if we do hang out he doesnt try anything on me except putting his arm around me or rubbing my back, which is weird to me i guess. He never tries to kiss me or anything like that. He has stayed at my house since we had sex and nothing....he just lays with me rubbing my back or my arm....whatever. I'm confused because he is sending mixed signals and I don't know what to think....is it the age? Or is he just nervous?
Scarlett_girl Posted November 2, 2004 Posted November 2, 2004 yeah..i could be the age..i've been involed with older men and it can be very confusing whne you are with someone who is so much more experienced than you! you don't really know what their intentions are... then again..he is only 20 and maybe just wants something casual..
BurningBright Posted November 2, 2004 Posted November 2, 2004 ... then again..he is only 20 and maybe just wants something casual.. Yep, I somewhat agree. If a guy is interested in pursuing something more then casual sex with, they will call you when they say they will (unless something drastic comes up.. but then they will call as soon as they can). They will want to be around you, and especially after having sex, they will want to put more then an arm around you and caress your back... Seriously, he should be wanting to jump your bones! If you are getting attached, I say move on. If he gets his act together, becomes more clear, and realizes he does want you as part of his life then consider it (if you are still single at that time). Just don't wait around for someone who makes it a regular habit not to call you when he says he will, or neglects to give you the attention you want and deserve. ~BurningBright
alicia24 Posted November 2, 2004 Posted November 2, 2004 its the age. I dated a guy a few years younger than me and he never tried a thing. not that i was waiting for him to bang me, but a nice kiss goodnight would have been appreiciated. I felt like I was practically throwing myself at him. Finally after the tenth date he kissed me and it was horrible anyway. Needless to say there was no chemistry and that was that
Author Miche789504 Posted November 2, 2004 Author Posted November 2, 2004 Yeah thats how I feel...like im giving him all the signals and he's just not getting it...I don't know if he's not the brightest when it comes to females, but I think he just hasnt had much experience because when he's with me he gets really nervous around me. He was trying to take my bra off and was like oh im not good with these....so I had to do it....
DJ_Dork Posted November 3, 2004 Posted November 3, 2004 Seems like he doesn't want anything more than a sexual relationship.
MelodyJ Posted November 3, 2004 Posted November 3, 2004 He is 20. That pretty much sums it up. Young, immature, maybe insecure around you. It is very likely that he does'nt know how to have a relationship. Hell, he can't even buy you a drink. Little older is better.
blind_otter Posted November 3, 2004 Posted November 3, 2004 Originally posted by Miche789504 On one occasion we did end up hooking up with each other....having sex and he stayed at my place...but since then the same thing has been happening oh ill call you...but he doesnt or if we do hang out he doesnt try anything on me except putting his arm around me or rubbing my back, which is weird to me i guess. He never tries to kiss me or anything like that. He has stayed at my house since we had sex and nothing....he just lays with me rubbing my back or my arm....whatever. This is how things always are with f*ck buddies, for me. NO kissing or anything intimate, just a good bang every now and then, making sure to avoid intimacy at all costs.
Author Miche789504 Posted November 3, 2004 Author Posted November 3, 2004 I guess I'm just frustrated because im not having any luck with guys.....not matter what age they are! I got out of a 4 year relationship and now im dating again (trying to at least) the guys ive been meeting arent exactly bf material. It doesnt matter if they are 20 or 24, or even 30 there is always something up! Maybe some of you guys can help me on this one....why is it that you give your phone number to a girl knowing youre in a relationship?? Do you really plan on trying to start something else? This guy I met played it off for 3 weeks and then dropped the bomb on me "Oh by the way I have a GF and Ive been with her for 6 years!" Whats up with that? He was 30! Id rather be with the 20 year old....with no experience!
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