lovesucks76 Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 It has been 3 days since the break up. I can't eat, sleep or look at any other girls. NC so far except for the morning after when I sent a text wishing her the best and received a response back with the same sentiment. I also left her a voicemail that same morning which I now regret. Unfortunately I will see her in 1 month when we resume going to to a PE class we take at the same place.same time. I look forward to seeing her to be honest but will do my best to ignore her and pretend she's like everyone else there. I know what to do but it hurts like hell right now. I can't stop thinking of her. I also think that she's missing us too. I'm a fool for even entertaining the thought!
templeofmax Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Of course she may miss you! But one thing is missing, another one is wanting to get back together, and if so, that can only happen after a few months of NC depending how long was the relationship. At least you will have a chance to see her. I wouldn't ignore her, but just say hi or something. But that is me. It will get better. You have to ride it through though. Don't break NC, especially if you are seeing her later on because that will show her you respect her wishes.
Author lovesucks76 Posted August 6, 2013 Author Posted August 6, 2013 You're correct, thanks. I decided I won't break NC no matter what. Right now, at this moment it sucks to be me. I've tried staying busy but no matter what I do my thoughts come back to her. She's a emotionally unvailable woman I think. She admits being damaged my verbally abusive parents so I think she needs to work on her issues first before I could take her back. You're right I should say "hi" but that's about it. Not willing to go back to square one again....this hurts! if anyone has tips on how to forget someone please share! Thanks again.
templeofmax Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 You won't forget her, especially if you will see her. I have post BU 3.5 months and think of her most of the time after a 2.5 year relationship. Hope is still there, its the way things work. Just get busy with things, work, friends, gym, etc. she will be on your mind, but you have to ride it through. There is no way of forgetting someone, only time can do that. I was where you are a few weeks ago, but time has helped a bit with the emotions. If you worry about not forgetting her, guess what, you are thinking of pink elephants. Just go on and not worry about her being on your mind as distractions will help, but you won't be able to forget her, especially so early. If you fight it, then anxiety will make things much worse. You have to go through the grieving process.
Author lovesucks76 Posted August 6, 2013 Author Posted August 6, 2013 Anxiety is exactly what I think I feel. She took my breath away and now it's like ' move on, forget her' , tough to do! I'm sure you know what I'm going thru...2.5 years is a long time and I can only imagine what went through your mind when it happened. I broke up because I felt she was not as into me and I was falling for her. She constantly would send me mixed signals. She made plans together and saw me 3 times a week, we spent hours each time together. I know she was into me but she was incapable of showing emotion like that and I need to feel appreciated, we all do! She's like that to everyone not just me. She won't even hug her own brothers and has a very strained relationship with her dad, just weird! Like I said she needs help but I still love her...I will move on eventually. At the moment I'm sad.
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