nicolewest Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Was in an LD for about two years, broke up with him while we were long distance. Ex returned about a month ago and acted as if we never broke up. I saw him about 3 times, once to return all of his belongings, once for a favor and lastly when I had to explain to him yet again that we weren't getting back together. Since then he has been calling, leaving messages. He claims he wants us to be friends but then the friendship he describes us having is not at all worthwhile to me. Also, I never like to be friends with my exes. I ignore the calls, texts, delete the voicemails but its still occurring (at least 6 calls a week). Got a call block app to put on my phone. Is there anything else I can do?
templeofmax Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Answer him, talk to him, be clear again one last time, it won't hurt to just talk to him, especially if you are sure you don't want anything else. Let him know that he is annoying you and that you will have no other option but to block him. You'll feel better and maybe he will get the clue before he turns to stalking. Quick question though, do you listen to the voicemails and read the text messages? I did some text terrorism with my ex as well, and she did ignore everything, but all I wanted was for her to read the messages, but have no idea if she actually read them. I have been NC for 6 weeks now, and still have hope, but I know if I contact so soon again I won't heal and will keep annoying her like you are right now. 1
Author nicolewest Posted August 6, 2013 Author Posted August 6, 2013 Answer him, talk to him, be clear again one last time, it won't hurt to just talk to him, especially if you are sure you don't want anything else. Let him know that he is annoying you and that you will have no other option but to block him. You'll feel better and maybe he will get the clue before he turns to stalking. Quick question though, do you listen to the voicemails and read the text messages? I did some text terrorism with my ex as well, and she did ignore everything, but all I wanted was for her to read the messages, but have no idea if she actually read them. I have been NC for 6 weeks now, and still have hope, but I know if I contact so soon again I won't heal and will keep annoying her like you are right now. I do read some of them. Its interesting, in the minutes I took to write this message and I just refreshed the page, he texted. This time with a new problem, one that I put myself in [he likes to call me with problems]. So it looks like I might have to call him once again.
Author nicolewest Posted August 6, 2013 Author Posted August 6, 2013 first off its import the break up the right way and to be clear with the person also in your behavior saying no i dont want to be friends but you keep acting a certain way around him is you sending wrong massages to him after the break up you need to act like it 2. and give the other person space to adjust to the idea, by doing things like stop answering every call, and keep lower the amount of times you answer it , dont go in public with your new bf if you have one, or even better dont date right away after your break up. and dont say or agree with staying freinds or at least be clear what you mean with staying freinds. if you have been true all of this and he dont stop. you need to change your number. and stop going to places where he is and be serious in your behavior towards him if you see him somewhere accidentally. and maybe its now that he is back that he is processing the break up. I already don't answer every call. I last spoke with him perhaps a week ago [after a week of ignoring calls]. I reiterated that I needed space and that I don't want to hang out or be friends. He said he didn't understand what the problem was.
Zahara Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Don't want to be friends means you ignore all contact. Accepting contact then wondering why he won't take you seriously is rather silly. If you don't want to be friends, then ignore all contact. That is what people who don't want to be friends do. Why is this so difficult?
Author nicolewest Posted August 6, 2013 Author Posted August 6, 2013 Don't want to be friends means you ignore all contact. Accepting contact then wondering why he won't take you seriously is rather silly. If you don't want to be friends, then ignore all contact. That is what people who don't want to be friends do. Why is this so difficult? thanks. will do
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