MightyHeracross Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Thanks for looking. Anyways, I am a 19 year old guy and have never been on a date. I guess there is a first for everything. I have a family friend who is a couple years younger than me who I have liked for years. Long story short, I asked her to go to a concert with me, and she said yes. THE CONCERT IS TONIGHT (hence the "urgent" part in the title). Only one problem, I have never been to a concert either. So I'm taking a girl on a date to do something I've never done. Two firsts for me. I know people say concerts/movies are bad first dates because you can't talk, but we see each other enough that its not awkward between us. We have condos when we are with our families. We are going out to dinner first (probably), but I still don't know what to do. If someone could give me a step-by-step guide for dates and concerts, Id really appreciate it. Like, for example, do I open her car door for her? Pull out her chair at the restaurant? Order for her (ask her what she wants and then order it for her)? If she has to go to the bathroom, do I walk her there? I obviously know I pay for everything. I literally know nothing for dates. Also, Im not sure she thinks of me this way. This could just be her going with me as a friend, but then again, she asked to pay for her ticket, and I said it was my treat. Do I tell her how I feel about her? If I tell her I like her, and she says she likes me, are we BFGF? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
sabre80 Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Step 1) Chill. Step 2) Have fun. Stop over thinking it. You will exude an aura of discomfort and she will feel the same. Have fun and it is more likely she will.
emelyrod Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Like, for example, do I open her car door for her? Pull out her chair at the restaurant? Yes for those two. You don't need to order for her, just let her order first or she'll think you're a controlling guy. Some articles that would help you a lot: Etiquette Of A Gentleman - AskMen The Modern Gentleman: Gentleman?s Guide to The First Date « Quip Pay attention to this part: Hold the door for her, when the host/hostess shows you to your table she goes first, you follow to…protect her from bears or something, take her coat and pull her chair out for her. She orders first always. Why? Because she’s prettier, nicer and smells better than you, that’s why. It takes no effort to do these things, but it makes all the difference.
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 I wouldn't do the whole courting ritual of pulling out chairs and opening doors, some girls might not even like that and feel a bit awkward. Just be yourself, it's not even an official date...go out to eat somewhere casual, make conversation, have fun, get to know each other...enjoy the concert and that's it...IF the moment feels right to do something you'll know it, acting on that just takes practice and experience/confidence.
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