tanglewoodche Posted November 2, 2004 Posted November 2, 2004 hey i was looking for some advice about the dredded word "love" i've been in a serious relationship for almost a year now and i know i actually love her, its like this thing though, girls i have known get freaked out by the L word, i feel as a christian friends and more serious partners should tell each other they love them, as if i died tomorrow how would she know but i was just looking for some advice , thanks
Naive Posted November 2, 2004 Posted November 2, 2004 I think that it should come out naturally, without having to think about it or plan it.
bluechocolate Posted November 2, 2004 Posted November 2, 2004 I think a year is long enough to pop the dreaded "L" word if that's how you feel - just be sure that when you tell her you're not expecting a reply and don't make a big song & dance about it. Just say it likes its a perfectly natural thing for you to tell her... "I'm going to the store, do you want anything? By the way, I love you, see you in 10".
BurningBright Posted November 2, 2004 Posted November 2, 2004 I'm sure you both have already been saying things like "oh I love when you open my car door", or "I love when you kiss me like that"... etc. etc. Obviously the feelings are there (and after a year, I am sure they are mutual), so if you are feeling it (and are sure that you truly are) then state it! There is never any harm in stating your feelings... especially when it's a good feeling. Seriously, after a year long relationship with someone, do you really think saying that you love her will scare her? If it were me, and it hadn't been stated after a year... I would be extremely happy to hear it (even though I would probably already recognize the love exists) I definitely agree with naive_2001 and bluechocolate, it should be stated naturally. It makes it less "shocking", and is sure to get a smile ~BurningBright
Majik45 Posted November 2, 2004 Posted November 2, 2004 Say it when you know you do. I've only been with my girl "officially" for a couple months although we've been talking and getting to know each other for over 6 months. I told her I loved her the last time we were together. I just wanted to let her know how I really feel about her, didn't want to hold it in any longer.
EC Posted November 2, 2004 Posted November 2, 2004 There comes a time when you just can't hold it any longer... It's been a year so i dont think she will freak out.. I know theres certain times when you look at her, or she syas something cute, or laughs a certain way that you just want to scream it...when that happens just look at her and say it. But say it knowing how you feel and not expecting her to say it back. Say it because you mean it and you feel that way and you want her to know. If she does say it back then even better. Go celebrate!
whites7 Posted November 2, 2004 Posted November 2, 2004 Now!! It's very simple. I you are even thinking it or trying to decide to her then tell her now. Tell her now before it's too late, tell her now and say it in a genuine way. Don't over -dramatacise it. Look her in the eye and tell her you have found the love you have always dreampt of finding, tell her she is your light, your sunshine. Do it now mate
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