zues Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Day 8 NC im starting to get the urge to get in contact with her. I keep thinking she will miss me so much she will want to get back with me. maybe she is afraid to contact me? thinking that she is, is killing me because i keep thinking i may have another chance? soooo hard folks
TaraMaiden Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 8 days and you're 'struggling'...? Honey, wait until you hit 8 weeks. Then you'll know what struggling really is.... You haven't hit the wall yet. As with all addictions and withdrawal symptoms, it gets marginally worse, before it begins to get better... Hang in there. you WILL feel better, we guarantee it. but staying strong, is the key to success.
lovesucks76 Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 I'm struggling hard after 3 days...are you telling me I'm going to feel like this for 8 weeks at least??? I can't take it....maybe I'm just weak.
TaraMaiden Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Everyone FEELS weak. But "Weak" is when you give in, more than once. Give in once, you'll just kick yourself. Give in twice, we'll do that.
mtnbiker3000 Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 I'm struggling hard after 3 days...are you telling me I'm going to feel like this for 8 weeks at least??? I can't take it....maybe I'm just weak. Take it day by day. Don't try to process it as one big jump. Small chunks. 1 day, then 2, then 1 week, then 2, etc... Pretty soon you will be feeling better. Also, NC is very important. So is therapy if you feel as though it might help. Helping me as we speak. BTW - I am just shy of 5 months NC I am now mostly pissed off at her for treating my like a douche and pissed off at me for being stupid and weak and allowing it for so long. I am hoping acceptance, forgiveness and indifference is next. But definitely felling much, much better and stronger than 2 or 3 months ago!! You will too, if you follow the recipe for success.
lovesucks76 Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Thanks. I'm committed 100% to NC and I know I can do it but it just sucks. It makes me never want to love anyone again to be honest. I count the hours of the day now waiting to go back to sleep so it won't hurt anymore...pathetic I know.
mtnbiker3000 Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 (edited) Thanks. I'm committed 100% to NC and I know I can do it but it just sucks. It makes me never want to love anyone again to be honest. I count the hours of the day now waiting to go back to sleep so it won't hurt anymore...pathetic I know. Nope, not pathetic. Human emotions. Most of us have been there. Try not to beat yourself up too much. Try and find fun things to do so you don't dwell so much. But also process these feelings and accept them for what they are. Cry it out if you have to. Talk to friends, family or a counselor. Journal. Post here on LS. Do whatever gets you through (except break NC). You will be OK. Just remember that!! Edited August 6, 2013 by mtnbiker3000
lovesucks76 Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Thanks for the advice and encouragement. I felt tears falling on my face at the traffic stop light this morning...that's just pathetic and made me want to kick myself for feeling like this. NC all the way!!
FLBuccaneer Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Good luck to you...I've been 2 days of NC and it's torture. It's an amazing diet plan but it's amazing how the human heart can feel so deeply. Remember, the sun is shining outside. Go out there and enjoy it.
lovesucks76 Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Yep, it's a beautiful day and I'm about to go for a run. Unfortunately we used to train for triathlons together so I need to get used to training alone again. I'm tough and I will do this. I'm going to write this on the inside of my arm before my run today "Committed 100% to NC"
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