DazedAndConfused15 Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 So my best friend, lets call him John, and I live together when I visit my hometown. He's an awesome guy and I love the guy to death. He has a girlfriend, lets call her Maria, who he's been dating for 7 months now....and I'm slowly falling in love with her. At first I thought it was lust (she's gorgeous) but then I spent 4 days with her, John, and 3 other friends at a lake house and I realized she's actually really cool and a pleasure to be around. Ever since then I've been thinking about her non-stop. I've also been feeling horrible because she's my best friends girl. Now when she's around, I feel amazing. It feels like her and I talk to eachother when I'm third wheeling more than she talks to John....I just feel some sort of a connection. I also have this urge to ALWAYS stand up for her...not because I'm hoping it gets her to like me, but because I truly want to have her back. It's really odd honestly. We've talked alone before and our conversations involve a lot of flirting, teasing, and were always smiling when were talking to eachother. Sometimes we even just stare at eachother from across the room for a few seconds....like ill catch her staring at me and we'll gaze in to eachothers eyes for like 5 seconds. I could just be acting hopeful, but I really feel something strong when I'm around her. I go back home very soon which is about 2000 miles away...I probably won't see John or Maria til December. Should I be a good friend and tell John how I feel? Should I tell Maria? Or should I just bite my tongue and leave it be?
white Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Leave it be. Meet someone else and forget about her. If you proceed on your current track best case is you lose a best friend and gain a cheater who knows you're morally flexible. Worst case you get beat to a pulp righteously by your buddy and the girl thinks you're an utter oaf. 1
HiddenUser Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 I'd definitely say to move on and forget about her. You're about to travel 2,000 miles away from them. What do you hope to get out of telling anyone? Not to mention the risk of losing your best friend is very significant.
Joaquin Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Defo hit her up. See how it goes. Your young and itll be a great lesson never to be a sneaky little bollox around anyones gf, especially yr friends, if u have any left.
SensitiveTJ Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 So....in a world with literally millions of eligible women, you want the one girl that's already dating your buddy. Real smooth, dude.
2sunny Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 That's just mean to even think about it. IF you're a friend to him - you wouldn't give this any thought. Maybe you should move. That way you're less likely to hurt both of them.
Maleficent Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 There was a Supernatural episode just like this in season 8. Did not end good. bottom line: the girl is not available. Shut up. Move on.
Bito Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 You already know the right thing to do. If you were this guys friend you would not put yourself in a position to fall in love with her . Stop talking to her constently.
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