2nd date: Is he not interested anymore?

[emelyrod]

So I met this guy over online dating and we've been texting for 2-3 weeks (he always texts first everyday). First date: we went to see a movie. It went great and ended with a hug. He was a true gentleman the whole time. He texted me right after he dropped me home that we should do this again. 2nd date: he didn't plan anything so we decided to just wing it. We had dinner and went to see another movie.

 

While watching the movie, he hold my hand, rubbed my finger the whole time and kinda grabbed my thigh. On the way home he hold my hand while driving and even sang for me. When we said goodbye, I gave him a hug and he kissed me on the cheek, so I did the same. I felt like he wanted more but I was so nervous so I just said goodbye quickly. I think he's very disappointed. He didn't text me back right after the date like he did on our first date, so I texted him first, and he just said thanks for the movie and good night.

 

He hasn't texted me for 2 days (he's never done that before), so I'm worried. Will he think that I brushed him off and I'm not interested? Will he decide to move on? Also, what does guy usually expect on a second date? Not just a kiss on the cheek right? I felt bad for him too but I was so nervous :/

 

Some other signs that I want to mention: he rarely asks questions when we had dinner and there were lots of awkward silence. He's not shy, he's an out-going guy. He always accepts my offer to split the check (well, I'm not worried about the money. I'm just worried that he doesn't like me enough to pay for the whole thing). He didn't plan the date in advance either. Is he just looking for a booty call? What do you guys think?

[BluEyeL]

I think he isn't interested for whatever reason. From my personal experience, in many cases yes, the reason is not enough sexy time from you, but it could be something else too. You didn't lose anything either way. Whatever he was looking for, he decided you don't have it, and it's better for you to let him walk, he doesn't seem to have what you want either, i.e. someone who is interested enough to pursue you regardless of sexy time or whatever, someone interested in you who asks questions. In the future, don't text so much with someone, meet early and don't do movies, do a short date but with lots of talking.

[Lansing]

What efforts are YOU making to talk on those dates?? You guys are going to movies on your dates, how much talking is involved? Why not go for a walk, go for a drink ,whatever...

[emelyrod]

Well since I'm kinda shy, I'm actually relieved that he wanted to go see a movie on our first date. I want to get comfortable first and we can do the talking later.

For our second date, at first I suggested going to the fair, but he said he wanted to do dinner so I just went with his choice. Then he changed his mind, suggesting going to see a movie. Turns out that movie hadn't come out yet, which means he didn't check the movie schedule before making the suggestion. So he just said let's do dinner then. After having dinner, he asked me what I would like to do next and I said "let's go see a movie" since I know he's a movie junkie. It was fun being with him but I'm tired of him waiting until the last minutes to plan the date.

During dinner, I really wanted to talk more but his wandering eyes got me worried. He didn't look bored, just didn't know what to talk I guess. He's an outgoing guy but he didn't ask many questions, so I found that strange.

[RebelWithoutACause]

Here are the things that stood out to me to indicate there was no big attraction/chemistry between you, at least from his side.

2nd date: he didn't plan anything so we decided to just wing it.

 

When we said goodbye, I gave him a hug and he kissed me on the cheek, so I did the same.

 

He didn't text me back right after the date like he did on our first date, so I texted him first, and he just said thanks for the movie and good night.

 

He hasn't texted me for 2 days

 

When we had dinner there were lots of awkward silence

 

I don't think it's necessarily something you did. He probably didn't feel connection and chemistry and this is something you cannot control or "make happen". Let this one go and wait for someone you're more compatible with.

[Leigh 87]

He definitely didn't feel 'it' with you.

 

When a guy is really attracted to you, likes you a lot and feels chemistry then he'll be sure to initiate texts and arrange dates.

 

If a guy feels something special about you, he'll pretty much never act in the way this guy's acting towards you.

 

It's nothing you did wrong. Most people he meets he won't be crazy about. Most people who date don't feel a spark or something special about every person they date.

 

It's not always because the person lacked something; something is just missing from your interactions.

 

It feels good for you, when he holds your hand and stuff in the movies. . That soft of thing can give girls butterflies, when a guy you're starting to date slowly shows physical affection.

For you, you felt good enough to keep dating. He, on the other hand, needed to feel something more from being with you. Besides a nice girl to brush up against at the movies.

 

Good luck with your future dates. Remember, just be yourself and it will be enough for the right guy

[PlumPrincess]

He grabbed your thigh? - He wanted sex and you didn't put out quick enough.

 

That's all!

[emelyrod]

Thanks for all of your comments. He just texted me and asked if I wanted to hang out tonight. Since I was busy, I asked 'next time?' and he said 'sure'. Does this mean that he's looking for a booty call? What's up with him asking me out at the last minute?

[RebelWithoutACause]

He just texted me and asked if I wanted to hang out tonight. Does this mean that he's looking for a booty call?

 

Very likely