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I was in an abusive relationship for about 3 years, and it ended about 3 years ago. I haven't been in a relationship since then but I have dated. Someone said to me the other day I still shouldn't date because I need to work on myself. I do go to a therapist which has been a tremendous help. I'm definitely not the same person I was a year ago but I still have insecurities especially with dating. I know I will always have trust issues and no amount of therapy will change that.

 

My question is how long should I wait? I can't keep living my life being afraid. Three years is a long time, isn't about time I start to really date again?

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I was in an abusive relationship for about 3 years, and it ended about 3 years ago. I haven't been in a relationship since then but I have dated. Someone said to me the other day I still shouldn't date because I need to work on myself. I do go to a therapist which has been a tremendous help. I'm definitely not the same person I was a year ago but I still have insecurities especially with dating. I know I will always have trust issues and no amount of therapy will change that.

 

My question is how long should I wait? I can't keep living my life being afraid. Three years is a long time, isn't about time I start to really date again?

 

No one is in a better position to answer this question than yourself. If you feel ready to date again - go right again.

That 'someone' can't know better than you what is going on in your head.

 

Unless that someone is your therapist I guess...

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