Should I be worried?

[CT98]

Hi all,

 

Posted here a few weeks back about my break up, have an update and I'm seeking some guidance or maybe just reassurance.

 

 

I'd reached a point after my break up in which I wasn't over her, but was sick of being down and worrying about everything, and could just about handle my new life.

 

It's at this point that I recieved a text from my ex telling me that she still has feelings for me and would really like to talk; not going to lie and say that I wasn't happy, because I was.

 

We met and we spoke about what had happened in the relationship and and agreed that we would like to get back together but would take it slow.

 

Since then we have been on a few 'dates', we've been intimate and have stayed at each other's places.

 

We spent the weekend away together this weekend, and it was enjoyable, but also quite stressfull, due to nature of the trip.

 

I think with hindsight maybe we have taken things a bit too quickly, but at the time it seemed like everything was falling into place, and we were just going with the flow.

 

Since the trip away things didn't seem quite the same, just a gut feeling that things weren't 100% right. I decided to ask her if things were still good for her between us, she said they were but things are moving a bit faster than she feels comfortable with. I told her I understand, but asked if she was thinking of ending things again, she tells me no but she's not ready to be a 'full on couple again'. She says she is feeling overwhlemed with how fast everything is going.

 

I said fine, and I understand, and we've agreed to slow it down again. We will go on another date this week, at a time that is suitable for us both.

 

I have told her that I am worried that she is going to call things off again, to which she has told me that she can't see why I'm worried because all she wants is more space.

 

Do you think I do have reason to be worried? Could she be having second thoughts? Or have things moved too quickly?

 

I think the worry comes from the fact that she has dumped me before, so why shouldn't she do it again, right?

 

Thanks

Edited August 6, 2013 by CT98

[CT98]

Sorry moderators.

 

Please can we move to 'Secind Chances' forum.

[Renard99]

I'm afraid you've just found the elephant in the room..........

 

It's this reason that, when my ex asked to try again about 8 months after the break up, I eventually said no. I felt that I could not trust her again, even if she had changed. I didn't want to invest the time and the effort into something that had the potential to still be broken.

 

And that's the decision you have to make my friend. You're right to have the suspicions, that's only natural after what happened....... but you need to decide whether you brush them aside and try your hardest to make this work.... or..... take notice of these warnings, ask yourself if this nagging feeling will chip away at you mentally and, ultimately, think of your own well being.