Legatus Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 She broke up with me 3 months ago, at first it was difficult being left for another guy, but not as much as having no answers or explanations. at the beginning of July I got my dignity back when she came over with her new bf to pick her things up. I told her I don't want to know her very calmly and with to emotion. Best part was I didn't have to fake it. I realized I don't have feelings for her anymore and I was more angry about the fact she could have saved some time for both of us if she was honest at least once. Well since that meeting I haven't spoken to her. I became indifferent and all is cool. Everyone told me to be prepared because she would contact me. She did. Yesterday she sent a facebook message whether I brought her sweater and a jacket with me from my holiday (I visited friends we saw together in January and we left some stuff). I wanted to reply at first, but didn't. She still has my stuff that I asked for for two months after the break up but I don't care about it anymore. I got my house key back and it's all that matters. Today she sent a text "I asked you a question about my jacket and sweater. Perhaps your highness would respond and stop pissing me off. I thought you got over it and stopped playing those stupid games". Well I specifically told her 3 weeks ago that I don't want to know/speak/see her and if she writes to me, that's ok but she should not expect a reply. Can't see any game in that.. She could have asked about the stuff before I went, or contact my friends as she still is in touch with them. Doesn't it look like a little bit of desperation to try to see if I react? 1
Misfortune Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 She broke up with me 3 months ago, at first it was difficult being left for another guy, but not as much as having no answers or explanations. at the beginning of July I got my dignity back when she came over with her new bf to pick her things up. I told her I don't want to know her very calmly and with to emotion. Best part was I didn't have to fake it. I realized I don't have feelings for her anymore and I was more angry about the fact she could have saved some time for both of us if she was honest at least once. Well since that meeting I haven't spoken to her. I became indifferent and all is cool. Everyone told me to be prepared because she would contact me. She did. Yesterday she sent a facebook message whether I brought her sweater and a jacket with me from my holiday (I visited friends we saw together in January and we left some stuff). I wanted to reply at first, but didn't. She still has my stuff that I asked for for two months after the break up but I don't care about it anymore. I got my house key back and it's all that matters. Today she sent a text "I asked you a question about my jacket and sweater. Perhaps your highness would respond and stop pissing me off. I thought you got over it and stopped playing those stupid games". Well I specifically told her 3 weeks ago that I don't want to know/speak/see her and if she writes to me, that's ok but she should not expect a reply. Can't see any game in that.. She could have asked about the stuff before I went, or contact my friends as she still is in touch with them. Doesn't it look like a little bit of desperation to try to see if I react? "....your highness" I wouldn't answer. Send her stuff through a friend or mail it if you can. Can't she message/call those friends to ask if they have her stuff? Get a mediator(tell a friend and have them tell her) to speak to her, that should make things more exciting with her. 1
Author Legatus Posted August 6, 2013 Author Posted August 6, 2013 She actually has talked to that friend an hour ago. My friends said they will send it to me but don't know when. hah! I'll wait couple of weeks and then message her if she wants her stuff I will be waiting for mine first.. I can't believe that people can't see their own hypocrisy. Does anyone?
Zahara Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 She actually has talked to that friend an hour ago. My friends said they will send it to me but don't know when. hah! I'll wait couple of weeks and then message her if she wants her stuff I will be waiting for mine first.. I can't believe that people can't see their own hypocrisy. Does anyone? Why can't they just send it directly to her? So much drama over sending a freaking sweater and jacket. You said you don't care about you stuff anymore, so let it go. Why contact her? Stop the hostage games and be done with it. 2
Author Legatus Posted August 6, 2013 Author Posted August 6, 2013 That's what I'll probably do. I'll send it but keep no-contact. It's jus..t I expected her to contact me but didn't think it will be so trivial and hypocritical...
Zahara Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 That's what I'll probably do. I'll send it but keep no-contact. It's jus..t I expected her to contact me but didn't think it will be so trivial and hypocritical... How could you expect a woman that brings her boyfriend with her to collect her things from an ex to act non-trivial and non-hypocritical? She did that out of spite. She sounds like a spoiled, entitled little brat to me. Don't expect her to be decent. And for your sake, PLEASE, do not contact her or respond. 1
Author Legatus Posted August 6, 2013 Author Posted August 6, 2013 Actually you're the second person who made me realize that. One friend after I told them bit by bit how the meeting went said "If she really loved the other guy she would never make him go to her own ex to pick her stuff up" (especially when one has so many friends with cars.). Of course you mentioned it from different angle, out of spite towards me, but it's the same thing. I actually didn't look at that part of the situation. But I still expect the decency from people. Maybe that's my flaw but I always do. I think I have to stop expecting the best from certain people.. Not going to contact her. It's much better this way, by contacting her I would just give her what she wants. 1
Zahara Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 We all expect decency, especially when we are decent to another. If they show you they can't then don't expect it. It's not a flaw that you expect it, just be smart when you realize you can't and won't get it. Contacting her would tell her that she has control over you. The best way to stick it to her is to ignore...and it's proven because she's getting agitated by your non-response. F*** her.
Author Legatus Posted August 6, 2013 Author Posted August 6, 2013 F*** her. I'll leave that to her new boyfriend My friends said they would send it to her after all so I don't have to worry about it. Hopefully now she won't have any reason left to contact me 1
Zahara Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 I'll leave that to her new boyfriend My friends said they would send it to her after all so I don't have to worry about it. Hopefully now she won't have any reason left to contact me All done! Wipe hands clean and move on. 1
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