MissLY Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 I just recently went out with this guy and he's really cool, just not my type physically (to be more specific, he has long hair and I'm not really into that. I know that doesn't sound too bad, but I really don't like the idea of dating a man who has longer hair than me lol) Anyway, we have another date set for thursday so we'll see what happens. But I'm curious, have any of you ever dated someone you didn't really dig in the beginning but fell for them later?
amaysngrace Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Love is a choice. I made a list a long time ago and crossed off like five of the twenty most important things because let's face it, nobody is ever going to be 100% of what you're looking for. 1
Carenth Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Nope. Primarily what is most important for me is that I find the other person interesting and our personalities mesh well. The girl could be drop dead gorgeous but if we had nothing in common or I didn't like her personality it just wouldn't happen. If I'm attracted to their personality then generally they are much more attractive to me as a whole.
MrCastle Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Love is a choice. I made a list a long time ago and crossed off like five of the twenty most important things because let's face it, nobody is ever going to be 100% of what you're looking for. 1
fiftyofsomethin Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Hell. I hated short-haired girls before. I thought they looked masculine and well, lesbian. And I was just not attracted to them. But then this one girl changed my mind. I now think that I would say that's actually a preference I have in women now. Go figure.
soccerrprp Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Love is a choice. I made a list a long time ago and crossed off like five of the twenty most important things because let's face it, nobody is ever going to be 100% of what you're looking for. I dated a woman that was and is VERY different from me. Had some rather serious differences in perspective, communication style and a couple of other characteristics. I have a mental list of what I'm looking for too. I fell for her anyway. Did I "choose" to fall in love with her? I think not. Love could be a choice, I suppose. But most would agree that, being irrational emotion, it is likely not a choice.
New User Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Yeah. But I've always felt a physical attraction to start with. I have a very definite "type" physically, but it's an idealized image. I find myself fairly frequently drawn to women (physically) outside of that- always for reasons I couldn't articulate or even know. I just know within a glance or two whether or not I find a woman attractive. Some women that I've felt that for could stop traffic and some wouldn't likely warrant a second glance from anyone passing by. They've ranged from pale, dark-haired waifs to ebony beauties with dreadlocks and child-bearing hips and many points in between. I'd be lying if I said that the initial attraction was anything besides physical, but the spectrum of women I've felt that initial physical rush for is wide and varied. Many of whom I wouldn't have imagined feeling that desire for until I actually saw them. 1
JustAReformedGirl Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 I don't think I actually have a type. I've been attracted to and liked quite a few guys in my life, and a lot of them don't share similar physical attributes. I've been attracted to really thin and tall (to the point of gangly) to nicely built, to chubby, short, and completely average. If I have a type, it must be based on their personality but again, there's still quite a wide range, there. A few shared some commonalities, such as favourite games, movies, similarities in their sense of humour, etc. But for the most part, there were more differences than similarities. I'm thinking I am able to click with a large demographic; that isn't to say I'd wind up with any or all of the types I've listed. On the contrary, I haven't even come close. But, I think there is potential in all of them-as long as I share enough of their interests, while maintaining a balance of uncommon ones. I think if you're too alike, that can cause problems, just as much as not having enough in common. In short, I think balance is key.
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