hellischrome Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 So here is the deal. As many of you know, I had a horrible relationship for 6 months, and I couldn't get over the breakup (5 weeks ago) for a while. Since 10 days we started NC and at the beginning I struggled but things started to be easier after that. Then I went oversea to visit a friend for a couple of days. We had a kind of a brief romance last year, which didn't result in anything really 'cause I was engaged at the time. This year we met again and we had again a very strong connection. I am starting to think about this "new" guy more often than I used to. I am wondering if it's the case to bring up the thing with him. We live 3 hours (by plane) from each other, and we are both incredibly busy with our professions. I don't think it's a rebound as I seriously like him (and always did). I am even forgetting about the guy I had problems to get over with. I am thinking if I should give time to myself and see how it goes in the next days, and act accordingly if I still feel like this towards him. At the moment I jump up if he texts me and stuff like that, but I am trying to play cool. It's just that at some point I think it's fate as our history is really strange - met twice in Europe for a coffee, both engaged at the time, then met again one year after on the other side of the world, then met again this year still on the other side of the world. Opinions?
Philosoraptor Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 If you proceed with this make sure you take it slow. You are just getting out of something and your post reads as if your emotions are just about everywhere. Take it slow and don't cling to this one person to fill a void. 1
nescafe1982 Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Agreed with Philosoraptor. It sounds like you're rebounding... and unless you want this guy to be "rebound man," proceed with extreme caution. He was a rebound last time you met him.... and you went NC only 10 days ago!
Author hellischrome Posted August 7, 2013 Author Posted August 7, 2013 Thanks guys! I totally agree. One thing made me think. I have been with this guy at his place for 4 days. All the things happened on the very last day (actually 6-8 hours before I left for the airport). During those four days I was thinking I didn't want to do anything cause I was afraid I was doing it for some kind of rebound/revenge. But in the end I realised that this new guy literally blows my mind, and at the end I couldn't resist him. What I am asking myself is if it's right to express my feelings to him without having a clear idea in mind (LDR? Casual relationship when we happen to meet, which so far has been once a year? Normal friendship but with feelings there on the table?). Also, I know (he told me) that he can't be available as he was in the past (we had this discussion before I went there) because his work is really crazy. What I mean is that I don't even if it's worthy to even initiate the discussion knowing that there is no room for a story. He has been really nice to me (he always been), but I don't know what he is thinking at the moment. It may be that for him it was just the thing of the moment, for a couple of days, and that's it. But really, what would you do if you had to decide weather to risk it? Reality (you are not sure about the other's feelings, you are far, almost 10 years difference) VS. Feelings (this is the kind of person I always wanted on my side)?
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