AKisBaked Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Been 8 months out from not contacting to my ex. I haven' contacted her at all since, however surprisingly she had contacted me several times within the few months. I didn't answer or reply to any of her calls or texts whenever she tried to contact me. (btw she already has a new bf too) Even when I was all the the way in Hawaii, she still managed to try to contact me.. For what reason? I don't know.. It's been awhile that i've been ignoring her and i got alot of time to myself and heal from this relationship. I am happier now with being on my own, doing my own things and making new friends. I am a bit curious of why she keeps calling me tho.. But at the same time I don't to break NC with her either because I see it as, if I do communicate with her, the ball is in her court now, where as for the entire time I controlled the situation by ignoring her.. There has been some photos I've seen through a mutual friend that she is "rumored" to be engaged or something.. Maybe that is why I am feeling a bit curious about her now all of a sudden.. So to conclude this, would this be a bad decision to break NC and communicate with her the next time she calls again? Or just leave it the way it is? FEEDBACK please. thanks!!!
Philosoraptor Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 What do you have to gain by contacting her? If you can't think of a solid reason, I'd just leave it. Curiousity isn't good enough; it killed the cat you know. 1
Author AKisBaked Posted August 6, 2013 Author Posted August 6, 2013 What do you have to gain by contacting her? If you can't think of a solid reason, I'd just leave it. Curiousity isn't good enough; it killed the cat you know. Ask her what's the deal in her still calling me after such a long time since we broke up. Im not the one calling her time to time... its her who makes out of the blue calls..
mtnbiker3000 Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Been 8 months (btw she already has a new bf too) This statement confused me the most. 8 months? That's a pretty long time. Were you expecting her to remain single forever?? Forget about her. Don't contact. Don't respond/reply. Move on. Get yourself a new GF!! After all, it's been 8 months...
Author AKisBaked Posted August 7, 2013 Author Posted August 7, 2013 This statement confused me the most. 8 months? That's a pretty long time. Were you expecting her to remain single forever?? Forget about her. Don't contact. Don't respond/reply. Move on. Get yourself a new GF!! After all, it's been 8 months... No what I was stating was it has been 8 months since I haven't spoken to her. I think your misunderstanding what im trying to say here.. I was never stringing her. She found a new bf 2 weeks after we broke up.
jesse93 Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 No what I was stating was it has been 8 months since I haven't spoken to her. I think your misunderstanding what im trying to say here.. I was never stringing her. She found a new bf 2 weeks after we broke up. Sounds like this guy was just a rebound and she is just sticking with him but still has feelings for you, I have a friend who broke up with a girl 1-2 years ago i think (not sure on the time) but from time to time this girl still messages him, and calls him and she will tell him she loves him, but she has a boyfriend shes been with this whole time. The only difference i can see is he answers her calls, and texts and she feeds him this load of **** "i miss you and i love you" and sometimes he gives in, and tries talking to her to get back together with her and she just shuts him down and never talks to him again for a few months. I think she does this because she thinks about him from time to time and these feelings make her want to get back together with him, but then she realizes she doesn't want to be with him anymore after talking to him. I honestly believe this girl is trying to connect with you not because she has feelings for you necessarily but i think she wants to contact you because you've disappeared off the face of the earth for her and she is curious, she might still have some feelings though just never message her back, because if she does want to tell you how she still has feelings for you, they are probably just a "in the moment" feeling and not something she truly feels in her heart, maybe i'm wrong but thats my 2 cents. You're happy without her, keep it that way man.
Philosoraptor Posted August 7, 2013 Posted August 7, 2013 Ask her what's the deal in her still calling me after such a long time since we broke up. Im not the one calling her time to time... its her who makes out of the blue calls.. And why does it matter if she is calling? If you're happier in your life now you should continue the path your on rather than taking a step back here.
Author AKisBaked Posted August 9, 2013 Author Posted August 9, 2013 Sounds like this guy was just a rebound and she is just sticking with him but still has feelings for you, I have a friend who broke up with a girl 1-2 years ago i think (not sure on the time) but from time to time this girl still messages him, and calls him and she will tell him she loves him, but she has a boyfriend shes been with this whole time. The only difference i can see is he answers her calls, and texts and she feeds him this load of **** "i miss you and i love you" and sometimes he gives in, and tries talking to her to get back together with her and she just shuts him down and never talks to him again for a few months. I think she does this because she thinks about him from time to time and these feelings make her want to get back together with him, but then she realizes she doesn't want to be with him anymore after talking to him. I honestly believe this girl is trying to connect with you not because she has feelings for you necessarily but i think she wants to contact you because you've disappeared off the face of the earth for her and she is curious, she might still have some feelings though just never message her back, because if she does want to tell you how she still has feelings for you, they are probably just a "in the moment" feeling and not something she truly feels in her heart, maybe i'm wrong but thats my 2 cents. You're happy without her, keep it that way man. Definitely, the new guy that my ex is with is a rebound but its surprising that they're together for so long now already. And it is official that she is getting married to this guy.. Which is more surprising because it hasn't even been a year yet that they've been going out together and they're already getting married.. Your probably right about how she's just having feeling in the moment about me. At this point in time, I have no more hate against her, I don't despise her or anything, but I guess just the thought of someone who you once were so close to is now a complete stranger and now having a future with someone else. Kinda hurts... but i'm over that phase of being emotionally hurt. That was in the beginning.
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