buzzie2 Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Let's say you just start dating a guy, and then things start to get a little more serious. When he wants to be in an exclusive relationship with you, how important is it that you get along with his mother?
New User Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 It depends largely on the relationship that he has with his mother- I don't think there is a one size fits all answer for this. Do you mean for your relationship's well being, for your bf's sake, or maybe you feel..... uneasy, I guess if you don't get along with his mom. From the point of view of a middle aged guy who has long had a strained relationship (though it has recently gotten better) with his mother- her view never concerned me one way or another
aussietigerwolf Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 It seemed to be important to my boyfriend but he has good relationship with her.
coltsfan1 Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Let's say you just start dating a guy, and then things start to get a little more serious. When he wants to be in an exclusive relationship with you, how important is it that you get along with his mother? If you and your mother have a good relationship then how would you feel? For me my family is my number one priority, I have "family first" tattooed on me. It wouldn't be a deal breaker but could very quickly become one with my GF. However if it was my mothers doing I would gladly sit her & my father down & get to the bottom of it!
CherryT Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 I have a very close relationship with my mother. It's important for me that my partner gets along with her. My mom is very loving and usually gets along with everyone. The fact that my partner treats my mom so well and my mom genuinely loves him, makes me love him and our relationship that much more. My SO is also close with his mom and it's a priority for me to build a relationship with her. I could not imagine not getting along with her considering her relationship with my SO. My ex didn't have much of a relationship with his mom. When I would see her around, i'd be nice to her. But he wouldn't really be. It was really awkward, but I let him lead the way with that. It really depends on the person and their relationship with their parent.
Treasa Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 It's good if we get along. Moms usually LOVE me. That being said, if my mom doesn't like a guy, that's pretty much it. My mom trumps all, and she's a pretty nonjudgmental person, so it takes a lot to get her to not like someone.
MrRightNow Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 To me it's VERY important that my SO has a good relationship with my mother. I don't know if I would dump someone who didn't get along with her, but I would definitely be anxious about it and seriously disappointed.
tbf Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Let's say you just start dating a guy, and then things start to get a little more serious. When he wants to be in an exclusive relationship with you, how important is it that you get along with his mother?Extremely important since that's where the mother-in-law from hell meme comes from, because the son gets pulled back and forth in the tussle between who gets to control him, where the fight isn't really over him, it's the power struggle between the MIL and the DIL. When written out, it sounds pretty pathetic, doesn't it? If it does sound pathetic, that's because it is.
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