EJ787 Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 I'm dating a guy, great guy, good looking, Nice, smart, good career, fun, good friends... One of the things that's always been nice about dating him is that he always sets a time for a second date, and it's usually about a week later... There have been times when we saw each other more frequently, but in the 3 months or so I've known him we ALWAYS see each other once a week... well, we're still calling it casually dating, but I've taken down my OLD, just because I got tired of the perpetual first dates with randoms.... So, now that i"m not first dating a bunch of randoms, I'd kinda like to see this guy more than ONCE a week... when I've hinted at it he implies that he'd love to but is busy (which is true) however, in the next few weeks the project that is making him busy will resolve... I'm wondering, if after 3 months he's still ok at just once a week... should I move on, I enjoy his company, but I feel like once a week dates perpetually just aren't what I'm looking for... I want someone who WANTS to see me...
violetsareviolet Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 unless his job takes a priority in his life right now, maybe he can't commit any more time than that? I know how that goes, and can only manage about the same right now. once a week isn't unreasonable by any means. sounds like a good, reliable bloke at least...have a chat with him, see how he responds to spending more time together? don't let little questions like this fester...as they remain unanswered, it could develop into a bit of unintentional contempt he will pick up on eventually 3 months is more than enough time to converse openly about your current relationship, the happiness level, if both of you were comfortable with everyone and finally that you'd like to spend more time together if possible.
RogerWallace111 Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Go with a combo of what Apes and Maverick said above. Make the move from just hinting to casually but clearly communicating what you want. See if, once his work project is off his shoulders, he starts making more time for the two of you like he's implied he wants to. If he does seem like he'd genuinely want to spend more time with you and it's just work that's been in the way, everything will likely be peachy. Inversely, if the relief from work doesn't result in him devoting a bit more time and being more "serious" about you guys, you'll have your answer. But no need to jump the gun if all indications are relatively good that, job aside, you're on the same page.
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