Need an outside .

[Amz170234]

We met at wedding, and we liked each other so we ended up going out. I found out straight away that he lives and works at the opposite end of the country, which set off alarm bells at first because of course, what enters my mind is 'potential long distance?'

On our first date. It was perfect, we both have a lot in common, both career driven people and shared the same interests so it felt right. He continuously came up north to visit me and we started officially dating and I felt that we were falling in love. Not in a way where we were already talking about getting married, or having kids, it was just normal and genuine and in my opinion, absolutely perfect. After about 2 months, I made effort to visit him, I went down and we ended up spending an entire weekend together where I noticed he started to bring up our future, and he even started talking more seriously about where this was actually going, and he even talked about us going on holiday.

But it was after this weekend that things went downhill.

He then came up to visit me, and he took us out to this bar, and it was here he told me that he doesn't think that this was going to work, because he lives and works down south, and I live and work up north.

Of course, I completely understood, and I was devastated as I really didn't want to say goodbye to what we had. But he did kiss me goodbye, and he held me really tight like he didn't want to let go. He did indicate about seeing me again but just felt he could not commit full time to me due to his important job and the distance.

We are still friends, and obviously, we have not spoken so much. He messaged me on my birthday, and he indicated about seeing me again? But when I jumped at the chance, I think maybe I scared him off because he then we cold again and said he would let me know about when we could meet up, but he never did. But I didn't mean to scare him off, it's just I was so happy to know he still wants to meet up regardless of what has happened between us. But did he generally want to see me? Or was he just indicating it because he wants to prove to me that he does still want to be friends?

Anyway, after a good couple of months, I met somebody else, and it was public to everyone via social networking websites that I was dating someone else, and I was generally happy and I generally wasn't trying to upset him or anyone. But I broke it off with the new guy after a couple of months because I still can't forget my feelings for the old guy.

I can't forget my feelings for him, and I still think about what we had, and I think about what could of been?

What I want to ask is, is there a chance that he may still think about me? Do you think I ever cross his mind still? Do guys move on completely or is there always a part that remains? I know I may get a response where someone says "stop playing silly games and just tell him how you feel" but it's easier said than done. He does not have another girlfriend, reports from friends we both share have told me that he is too busy with his work to have time for a relationship. I just have so many questions. I want to know what complete strangers think of this situation? Has anyone ever been here before? Do you think the fact that I met someone else after him might of upset him? I would like a friendly opinion. Sorry it's such a long post x

[Philosoraptor]

You may or may not cross his mind; but in his mind the distance is too much of a strain, and a relationship with you was not worth that strain.