smiles1018 Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 (edited) So we broke up back like 7 years ago.. one day he up and text me said it was over even though we spoke that day and hung out the night before and every thing was ok.. but that's besides the point.. he broke up with me and we really haven't talked since... and all of the people we were friends together aren't friends with me anymore either... idk if they aren't allowed or what but they stopped communicating me... about 8 months after the break up he finally gave me my things back and talked to me after ignoring and hiding from me.. when I mean hiding I mean when I needed my laptop back for school he dropped it off in the middle of the night and hid it by my garbage cans and when I needed my passport back he put it in his mail box and hid in the basement and I had to look stupid in front of his family which was all sitting inside the house watching me walk up and grab my stuff. But when we saw each other again everything seemed ok we talked and were close and got intimate and he kissed me and we saw each other twice after that but then that was the last I had heard seen of him or that life even when I had seen him at a gas station once he hopped in his car and like hid from me.. Obviously time has changed this he is now married and I am dating someone new.. well this is a few someone news since him lol... This past weekend I saw him at the grocery store and I tried to look the other way in the aisle hoping he wouldn't see me because but when I walked by I glanced he was just standing there staring at me.. I just felt kind of dumb like he was looking at me like he was mad and it really hurts me like I am at a point in my life where I have finally come to terms in life and he is obviously moved on being married.. it just like I still never got an answer and its still awkward when I see him which I don't like.. the way he handled things definitely hurt but I don't hate him for him doing whats best for himself... feedback would be appreciated.. thank you Edited August 6, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Chi townD Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Feedback? Sure.....WHO CARES!!!!! Look, he had to demonize you in his head so he would feel justified in dumping you, like he was making the right choice for himself. That's probably why he's acting like an asshat. But, that's his hang up and not yours!!! He sound very immature and he is not your problem anymore. He's married so he can go tell it to his wife. You should have looked at him and smiled while thinking, " WOW! after all this time, you're STILL an immature douche rocket! Now, I'm gonna go home and give my boyfriend a kiss because I know I got it WAY better with him!" 1
Author smiles1018 Posted August 5, 2013 Author Posted August 5, 2013 Your are absolutely right ChiTownD.. thank you!
LostInTheWild Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 (edited) He sounds very immature, but based on the circumstances you've described, I'd like to offer a different point of view. It almost seems to me like he heard something about you. Maybe someone told him you cheated or did some other awful deed. This, in no way, excuses his behavior at all. What I'm saying is, he probably reacted to whatever he heard right away and is thinking she knows what she did instead of confronting you to figure out what happened. I don't know...That is really awful though and if you run into him again just tell him where to go. You have every right to shop in a grocery store just as he does! Another thought: maybe he is just an angry person. Also, I know some people whose foreheads just make them look angry all the time. He could just be an ugly fella. Edited August 5, 2013 by LostInTheWild 1
Author smiles1018 Posted August 5, 2013 Author Posted August 5, 2013 Thank you for the response.. I really know I shouldn't worry about it and I almost wish it could have been something he heard but I know that wasn't the case.. honestly the way things ended were weird.. two days before he ended it was sweetest day of that year and he bought me a beautiful promise ring.. really idk now its done and over but I think for me I would just feel better if I didn't have to be like afraid to see him I guess because of the awkwardness like I don't believe in burning bridges.. And I am the type of person that just because things didn't work out doesn't mean we cant be cordial or that either of us are bad people... its just how like is to me in my opinion.. but I know I can't control actions I just hate feeling like regardless of what with him I was in the wrong and I hate having that animosity and tension.. Thank you for the input though
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