Ex wants attention from me, why?

[Dancing Lights]

Hello Everyone

 

I am in a sort of NC with my ex. I am not contacting her at all not writing to her anything, but in the last 3 days she is inviting me for games (we both play LoL and I left her on my friendlist because I knew I am strong enough to not talk to her about us).

 

So in the last 3 days, she is either inviting me for a game (she didnt do this since our break up), or watching my games and talking to me about the game (making questions or telling me things what I should do). She is being nice. Why I feel she wants attention, because my ex has a girlfriend who I am talking nowadays, and she met with this girl a few days ago, and she told her, yes we time to time (2 or 1 times per week) talking. When she knew this she got mad with me, because why I talk with her friends and how I dare (even tho its only 2 friends of her's and I was talking with them before we broke up). I simply told her its non of her business, and she got even more mad at me, and she said when I move to her city, we will need to talk about many things.

 

So anyway what should I do? I am having feelings towards my ex, but I am being in a sort of NC situation, where she knows nothing about me or about my feelings, all she knows is I am playing and thats it. I personally dont even know I want to meet with her when I go there, because seriously what she wants to talk about, she broke up with me and its non of her business who I am talking to, and btw this girl told me my ex asked her, if she thinks I am moving on or she thinks I am still trying to get her back.

 

I am confused because my ex has a new relationship, but for some reason she is still spending way to much time around me, with this I mean. She is being jealous and mad, because I am keeping contact with her friends, she wanted to control me and the situation after the break up, and now I feel since I got my s... together, she cant control anymore... Now she just wants my attention.

 

I am just messed up sorry to bother you with so easy questions, and for sure others has bigger problems, but for some reason I cant move on so easily over my ex, I really loved / love her, at some point yes I am trying to find things to grab on, but right now I am more confused of her actions, I am in a point of even I am trying to move on and forget her but she doesnt let me. (she doesnt want that to happen)

 

So yeah why is she doing this, any idea guys what I could do? And yes I know move on and ignore her, yes I am doing that... But why is it easy for me to not write to her, but she cant do the same? She broke up and she has a new relationship, it post to be easier for her... I am just confused, I wrote my story on this forum and I got the answer of I am trying to find hope... But I am being done finding, hope there is a damn reason she tried to keep hope in me, and then I move on showing her no NC showing her I am having my own life, and I am not going to be a puppy, and now she is sooo different and since she sees I am not up for talks, she comes with gaming things...

 

Thanks for the answers.

Edited August 5, 2013 by Dancing Lights

[mammasita]

simple answer: because you're giving it to her.

 

You actually aren't moving on and ignoring her because you've left a couple openings (i.e. the game) for her to contact you. If you seriously want to move on and not feed her ego and play her little games, I'll give you the secret:

 

Block/Delete/Ignore.

[Dancing Lights]

simple answer: because you're giving it to her.

 

You actually aren't moving on and ignoring her because you've left a couple openings (i.e. the game) for her to contact you. If you seriously want to move on and not feed her ego and play her little games, I'll give you the secret:

 

Block/Delete/Ignore.

 

Hmm but inside the game, we never talk about us, and why is it good for her if she can talk with me about a game? Why is it important for her? What does she gain from it?

 

Well I said I have feelings towards her still, which means I am trying to move on but at some point i dont want to delete her from my life, well this all might be because of this and she is using that.

 

But the question still up inside me. Why does she use these "doors", instead of just leaving me alone? She has her new BF and she wanted to break up, what does she gain from this? Or just because I go for a game with her, where I hardly talk to her, or she watch my games she feels, I am stuck with her. I find it a little stupid Oo.

[mammasita]

Hmm but inside the game, we never talk about us, and why is it good for her if she can talk with me about a game? Why is it important for her? What does she gain from it?

 

Well I said I have feelings towards her still, which means I am trying to move on but at some point i dont want to delete her from my life, well this all might be because of this and she is using that.

 

But the question still up inside me. Why does she use these "doors", instead of just leaving me alone? She has her new BF and she wanted to break up, what does she gain from this? Or just because I go for a game with her, where I hardly talk to her, or she watch my games she feels, I am stuck with her. I find it a little stupid Oo.

She's using these doors because YOU are leaving them open. Close them all.

 

You can't control her and there is no sense in trying to figure out why she does what she does. All you can do is control YOU. Close. the. doors.

[Chi townD]

hmm but inside the game, we never talk about us, and why is it good for her if she can talk with me about a game? Why is it important for her? What does she gain from it?

 

 

welcome to the friend zone!!!!

[Dancing Lights]

welcome to the friend zone!!!!

 

Well thats a place where I am never going to be. Because I dont want to be her friend and I clearly told her. So I surprised you said that.

[Chi townD]

Doesn't mean that she isn't trying! Come on! She comfortable to talk to you about a game and nothing else? Isn't that friendly banter?

 

That shouldn't have come to a surprise to you...