zues Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 I'm at one week NC and for some reason all last night and today, I keep getting the urge to contact her, My mind is going into overdrive. I just cant stop thinking maybe she misses me so much she will want me, or what if she is afraid to contact me because she thinks i may have moved on. I keep thinking that if i dont get contact her i will loose her forever. the thing about it is i dont want to loose her but i have no choice i gotta move on with my life. so i have a question? is this just part of the process? these doubts clouding my mind! She says really likes me and has strong feelings but doesnt want a serious relationship because she has issues! It is so dam hard how do you people do this?
JDPT Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 It is absolutely part of the process, it appears that you are nearing the bargaining stage. I can suggest this, focus on your thoughts, thoughts of moving forward with your life and embarking in recovery. Don't assume what she may be thinking or fantasize about what her intentions may be. Keep in mind that you clearly can not tap into her thoughts and see exactly what our exes think of us or not think of us. We tend to assume and say "I know she misses me, I think she is thinking of me, she is probably waiting for me to contact her first." Truth is, these are all wishful thinking statements. Be strong and fight the urge, when you have a weak moment reroute your thoughts and analyze why you too aren't together, it will start making sense little by little.
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