lifeboy Posted November 2, 2004 Posted November 2, 2004 Hi all, Well i was with a great girl for 3 years, but she broke up with me in july because she wanted to test the waters, was afriad of the fact that i would be the only one she ever had a relationship with or slept with.(standard stuff) so long story short, she just transferred to a new college (she is a junior now) and initially things werent going as great as she wanted, so she eventually asked for me back, and i was a fool and pretty easily got back with her. well soon after, she became reserved about it as she began meeting some guys that were cool and in a frat and into good music. so i sensed her reservations and asked her "even if i continue to treat you great and all for the future, is there still a chance you will dump me because you want to see what else is out there?" she responded that the chance does in fact exist. so that night, i left her and said "from here on out, you are the boy who cried wolf. next time you 'want' me back, how am i to believe you?" i was also like; go hang out with the new guys you met and im sure you'll get your fill from the guys at the frat, to which she sobbingly responded "no one compared to you!" but whatever, i left because refuse to feel like she isnt into me 100 percent. so ever since that night, i have ignored any of her communicatin attempts. for the first 2 weeks, she didnt try anything, but then eventually she tried calling a few times; i ignored. she found out i just got a great job and has been trying to find out the details, but i dont bite. bascially; it has been more than a month since i last communicated with her in any way shape or form. i removed her from my buddy list and blocked her from contacting me. anyway, after it becomes obvious that i wont answer her calls, she last week emailed me a song - just uploaded the song and wrote nothing at all in the body of the email. the song is called "i know you by heart." so i guess id like to know (if anyone can help) A) why did she send this song? and B) What exactly does it mean? ultimately, ever since she sent the song (like a little less than a week ago), she has not called me anymore. i am very stubborn and will never contact her though. the only way i will talk to her is if she ever does want me back. for now i am trying to move on. the song is very sad in terms of its tone and tempo. however, i interpret the lyrics as saying basically "i cherish the tons of great times we had. i will never forget them. i still think of you, but just in terms of as a good memory." so i dont even really think there's anything to be excited about. also, on a related note, i hung out with my best friend and his gf (who happens to be my ex's sister) this weekend (hadnt seen them in a looong time) and i was in high spirits, very good mood, and didnt even mention my ex or ask about her. my friend told me later that after they dropped me off, her sister said "wow im surprised he didnt even mention sarah." ok thanks for any insight y'all might have. it really does mean a lot!
Starnette83 Posted November 2, 2004 Posted November 2, 2004 Hey there, first off congrats for being so strong and sticking to your no contact!!!!!! I think this girl mest up and she was taking u for granted and u done the right thing by ignoring her!!! I think sooner or later she will realize her great loss which is you!!! Anyways cant blame her for her curiousity it happens but still it is controllable when u love someone!! I think now u shoudl take advantage of letting go, and meeting new girls! its always hard breaking up..of course!!! but its even harder being with soemone who is always curious what else is out there, u wanna be soemone who loves u completely and doesnt ever wanna be with someone else to compare or to dow hatever.... I dunno...but ive been with my bf for almost 4 years and he brok e up with me cuz he was curious what else was out there, in my case i gave him another chance after a one month n./c and so far things have been good between us, i love him with all my heart though and even tho hes the only guy ive had sex with i dont care if hes the only one for my whole life, instead id be glad if he was... anyways if u truly love her and would want another try with her, thats if she attempts another try then give it a shot, but theres always a risk..and if shes still gonna go on with the crap of curiousity its not worth it..lots girls out there who will just want YOU and not wannan be datin other guyz goodluck!
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