no contact nearly 2 weeks feel worse

[louise321]

well nearly 2 weeks in and I feel worse than the day he chucked me out of the house.

 

I wont contact him ever, I cant stand the hatred he has towards me.

 

I don't think I deserve to be chucked out and how I was treated, I feel so angry that I didn't get my say, that he just said get out that's that after 7 years

 

just looking for words of comfort and bit of support, I feel like im going under here. worse not better as time goes on and I finally relise we are over

[Mrfr]

Hey Louise, I'm in the exact same position. Having bad days and good days. I hope it gets easier.

 

I really feel for you, just try and be strong ok!

[lukekarts]

I am in a similar boat after 10 years - was told to get out by her (albeit via text which made it worse) and never really had any say or understanding why.

 

It's really hard, and I'm still angry to this day (this happened 4.5 weeks ago). Best advice I can give you:

 

1. Surround yourself with friends

2. Do not let your anger get the better of you (I did, and how I regret it)

3. Use the fact he treated you like crap when he ended it, to realise how bad a person he was.

4. Focus on anything that keeps you busy.

5. Try counselling. It really helps.

 

Know that the pain will be with you for a long time, but it will get better.

 

For the first week I couldn't eat or sleep.

For the second week I still couldn't eat, but I started sleeping.

 

I can now do both, and have lost a bit of weight, am more active, and generally starting to feel better about myself.

 

I have no freaking clue about how to meet new people - especially of the opposite sex, but I'll just let things happen for now.

[JDPT]

It's completely normal. It will be more difficult before it gets better and that's ok. As the saying goes "joy wouldn't feel so good if it wasn't for pain." We all have our ups and down we all feel as if we are strapped in this emotional rollercoaster with no way of getting off. I was perhaps in a similar situation, when I was dumped I had absolutely no say, she was done with no explanation, I felt censored in a time when I had so many erratic emotions inside and I needed to say my piece as well. I learned to find closure on my own, remember no one can give you closure but yourself. The person that hurt you can't be the same person that makes you feel better, think about it. Find peace and forgiveness, for give him for all the pain he has caused you and forgive yourself and don't be so hard on yourself. Focus on yourself and the many things you can do to embark on this new recovery journey. I wish you the best.

[Chi townD]

Okay, why does he hate you so much? What's the story?