youcanever Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Brahs, It has been 10 weeks since breakup and i was doing so good last 2 weeks. I went to another city for work and even liked a girl so much. Felt so attracted. My ex hasnt came to my mind for 1.5 weeks. Now i am back to my city at work and my ex came to my mind and this feelings are growing and growing. I checked her whatsapp, a guy liked her photos, she liked his photos. I also checked her whatsapp last seen and she seemed at 3.30 am lastnight. After our break up she always seen online at 2 3 ams. Is that normal for a girl or is she talking to a guy? Damn i was so attracted to the girl from other city and i was moving on so good. Now my ex started to seem perfect again. I am so screwed. I dont want those feels back. How do you guys deal with the fact that your ex will have a new bf or already have? It sucks big time. ****!
Philosoraptor Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Well the best way to deal with it is to not know about it. Stop checking up on her and you won't have to worry about what or who she's doing. 1
JDPT Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 By checking up on her online you are only generating new wounds. Whether she has a new boyfriend or not is irrelevant at this point. Dust yourself off and get back on the saddle, as stated you were doing so good and there is absolutely nothing stopping you to keep doing good for yourself. Reroute your thoughts and forgive her for all the pain and forgive yourself for having a weak moment. Don't be so hard on yourself we all have our ups and downs.
Author youcanever Posted August 5, 2013 Author Posted August 5, 2013 By checking up on her online you are only generating new wounds. Whether she has a new boyfriend or not is irrelevant at this point. Dust yourself off and get back on the saddle, as stated you were doing so good and there is absolutely nothing stopping you to keep doing good for yourself. Reroute your thoughts and forgive her for all the pain and forgive yourself for having a weak moment. Don't be so hard on yourself we all have our ups and downs. I dont know why do i keep thinking she îs so special. She was not. I am just jealous of her new bf. Thats it. And it makes me want to throw up when i think of her having sex witha guy.
stillafool Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Stop checking on her, she is gone. If you keep checking you will never get over her. Let her go.
Author youcanever Posted August 5, 2013 Author Posted August 5, 2013 Stop checking on her, she is gone. If you keep checking you will never get over her. Let her go. I am way too emotional or people are too cold hearted. I am done with relationships. They suck.
Philosoraptor Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 I am way too emotional or people are too cold hearted. I am done with relationships. They suck. You aren't too emotional, you are hurting and what you are experiencing is very common. The people here aren't cold hearted, they have experience and are only giving wisdom that will help you avoid further pain. What you are doing is spending too much time thinking about your ex and not enough time working on yourself. Concentrate on what makes you happy and let go of her; as she is moving on and you should be as well.
Emilia Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 You are way to stuck in this. The number of threads... you need to get a hobby OP
Author youcanever Posted August 5, 2013 Author Posted August 5, 2013 You aren't too emotional, you are hurting and what you are experiencing is very common. The people here aren't cold hearted, they have experience and are only giving wisdom that will help you avoid further pain. What you are doing is spending too much time thinking about your ex and not enough time working on yourself. Concentrate on what makes you happy and let go of her; as she is moving on and you should be as well. I am definitely moving on. I'm going dancing, working out, working, reading, also started meeting new girls. I even met an amazing girl this week and we hit it off great but she has a bf. Just today my ex came to my mind. Also when I said cold-hearted I didn't mean the people trying to help me. I meant the people who leave us like this. They just throw us away like a garbage and doesn't care and move on with their life happily. That really sucks. You feel empty, broken-hearted. Anyway, as Emilia said, enough is enough. I'm not going to open a thread about her again, she is not worth it. Thanks.
Keenly Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Your mind is only remembering the good moments. It romanticizes the relationship, and it tosses out all the bad things that really are what caused the breakup. If you two spent a few hours together, you would be reminded why you are not together.
Author youcanever Posted August 5, 2013 Author Posted August 5, 2013 I just found out that my ex already started to date someone and she likes him so much. AWESOME ! Guy is like a total *******. Now, I want to throw up.
JDPT Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 I dont know why do i keep thinking she îs so special. She was not. I am just jealous of her new bf. Thats it. And it makes me want to throw up when i think of her having sex witha guy. OH wow, I used to think just like you or perhaps at time I still do but it's seldom that I think about it anymore. I used to obsess over my ex being in bed with another guy, doing the intimate things that she did with me. I would literally picture her having sex with someone it was sickening! until I started to reroute my thoughts and kept telling myself, "even if she is having sex left and right, it really has no bearing on my recovery, what she does on her personal time is her business and hers only." Our minds play tricks on us and we feed into those tricks. It's sort of a curve ball our minds throw at us but in reality if you analyze things objectively, those thoughts are nothing more than obsessive delusional thinking. Start by removing your ex off that pedestal is she was "perfect" as we like to think our exes were we would still be with them, right? Truth is she was far from perfect and so are we, we simply learn from our mistakes and grow to be better people for ourselves and our future partners. Remain strong and in control we all have our weak moments, as stated just learn from them and move forward with your life.
Author youcanever Posted August 5, 2013 Author Posted August 5, 2013 OH wow, I used to think just like you or perhaps at time I still do but it's seldom that I think about it anymore. I used to obsess over my ex being in bed with another guy, doing the intimate things that she did with me. I would literally picture her having sex with someone it was sickening! until I started to reroute my thoughts and kept telling myself, "even if she is having sex left and right, it really has no bearing on my recovery, what she does on her personal time is her business and hers only." Our minds play tricks on us and we feed into those tricks. It's sort of a curve ball our minds throw at us but in reality if you analyze things objectively, those thoughts are nothing more than obsessive delusional thinking. Start by removing your ex off that pedestal is she was "perfect" as we like to think our exes were we would still be with them, right? Truth is she was far from perfect and so are we, we simply learn from our mistakes and grow to be better people for ourselves and our future partners. Remain strong and in control we all have our weak moments, as stated just learn from them and move forward with your life. Absolutely. Those thoughts of her and a guy is just horrible. It is like a punch in the stomach. I was doing awesome in last 1.5 weeks. I met 4 girls and found one of them very attractive. But today was my first day in my city again and my ex came to my mind, then I found myself checking her instagram pics. And saw that she is flirting with a guy. I shouldn't care, I know. It just hurts to feel that she will do same things with him and I feel like I wasn't enough with her sexual hunger and there is so much more I should do with her and her new bf will do all of those with her and they will be so much happy and so much more intimate and so much more connected. Those thoughts are so stupid but they are in mind.
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